Situation

[ImpaledScarecrow]

I have a situation. I have 2 best friends: I've know Justin the longest and we were original best friends...Justin was best friends with Mike, who is now my closest friend (to the point where mike and i are blood brothers). Last night Justin kind of had a breakdown and gave up everything and said that he can't be friends with me & Mike if we smoke. In the past 3 years we got through alcoholism and eventually crack addiction...that's all behind us now though. I've always advocated MJ as a all-natural medicine that has more uses than just getting stoned and was placed on this earth by god for our use. However, I can't stand the thought of losing my 2 closest people in my life...what should I do? I feel really ambivalent right now over this.

[SpRi7e]

What's more important? drugs or friends? Just choose whatever want you want more or if you want to lie to your friends just smoke occasionally behind their backs.

[ImpaledScarecrow]

yea that's the thing though...i don't view MJ as a "drug"....and I don't toke a whole lot either and when I do it is to help me sleep to relieve anxiety before bed or when i have a toothache so i can stand to eat something. I don't want to lie to my friends but at the same time I want to hold to my beliefs and i don't want to lose them.

[Weedguru Higher]

Ah, choices, choices, choices...

You cannot be upset with your friend for wanting to cut the ties. He's doing what he's got to do. It's not entirely a poor choice as it makes quitting drugs much easier not being around them. He's made a tough decision himself and you have to respect him for it.

On the otherhand I can see where you are coming from.

If you wanna keep this friend I would suggest maybe you sit down and discuss it with him. Tell him you understand that's he's made a personal life choice and that you respect him for it. Express to hiim that you don't wanna ruin this friendship but that maybe your views aren't quite the same as his..explain your own views. Tell him that you can accept him for his choices, and that you in turn would also like for him to accept yours. I would tell him that even though MJ may remain in your life, you care enough for your friend to abstain from it in his presence. Put it aside and do other things together instead,,afterall a true friendship goes far deeper than smoking joints together. t. If he decides he still wants to cut the ties, then so be it. The other option would be to quit. But you gotta quit for yourself, not for him.

Smoking behind his back is a bad idea....

[SpRi7e]

Also another thing you could tell him is that smoking is a big part of your life and prove that it doesn't ruin your friendship then it shouldn't matter if you smoke or tell him that you won't do it around him. You could also compromise and say that since it's a huge part of your life and you don't want to get rid of it than he can deal with it sometimes, but you shouldn't feel that you have to decide between friendship and smoking just so it makes him feel better. It's pretty much what higher said but in a different way I guess.

[FIRE!!!]

Try telling your friend your opinions on marijuana. Show him all the potential benefits and the minor drawbacks. Show him that it doesn't affect your life or you as a person, and you have maintained all the integrity you had before you started smoking. Show him that it won't lead to any of the addictions you have faced in the past. If he still doesn't accept what you're doing then I guess Spri7e was right, you have a decision to make.