I shouldn't say this...

blazedsubaru · Post by **blazedsubaru** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 9:43 am

I shouldn't tell you guys my problems, really I shouldn't. You don't need my problems, but I need to tell them. Badly.

I met the most amazing girl about 2 and a half months ago. I would be having the worst day, and just seeing her would make my day so good. Rainy days turned sunny, all that bullshit that I thought was fake really happened. Things start to move on and she calls me one night crying and tells me she has something she needs to talk to me about.

So she comes over and tells me that she can't have a relationship, with anyone. Every time she would get too close to someone, she would get repulsed, leave, and never talk to the person again. She was attracted to the bad guys and once they started treating her right she left. I didn't know what to do.

Things keep going, it gets a little awkward at times when we get close, start making out and realize this is the wrong thing to do. That if things get any farther she will get scared off and never talk to me again. She tells me she has feelings for me, but doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

Last weekend I went to her house to party. We drank, smoked, and made out for a while. I leave to go downstairs, everyone walks downstairs (small mini-party) and I know something's up. Someone tells me they left something upstairs, so I head up there. I walk in on my buddy making out with her and he looks at me and says "Oh shit, we should stop"...

It really hurt. She tells me nothing she does when she's drunk "counts", it doesn't mean anything. It does nothing but hurt is what I think. She says she never does any more when shes drunk than making out, which is the truth, at least from as long as I've known her and what all her friends tell me.

Last night she went out to a party, that she invited me to. Turns out she ended up making out with some guy there. Find out today, knew it was going to be like this, that she "likes" my friend I caught her making out with. I was fucking lit when I heard. It ruined my day. I saw her, the sky didn't part, I wasn't changed. I didn't say a fucking word to her.

We hang out, she keeps asking me whats wrong. I tell her she knows exactly whats wrong, and she gets quiet. We get a while to talk and she tells me she always likes people that are very unavailable, so she doesn't hurt herself. She told me she's going to look into counseling now, she really does need to sort some shit out.

It's just, I'm so unhappy. She's so unhappy. We can't be happy without a relationship, but we can't have it! So we're both sitting here beating ourselves up. I'm watching herself do these things I know aren't healthy for her emotional well-being. She acts so different in front of people. She could be an actress.

But she's so beautiful, and such a nice person. I do love being around her. Everything about her is so amazing.

But I can't stand the way she is with guys. I just feel like I SHOULD let go, but I can't. I can't just give up. I know there's never going to be anything there, but I can't let go. It's not going to happen like that.

So I'm going to keep beating myself up, and so is she. Sweeeeeet.

Weed doesn't even help my sorrows anymore.

weedguru tom · Post by **weedguru tom** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 9:51 am

bone her n ditch her, thats what she wants lol

blazedsubaru · Post by **blazedsubaru** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 9:55 am

I'm too far in to do that.
I probably would have 2 months ago.

I'm really, really not that guy. She has had those guys that she has told me about and that just makes her feel like shit.

One night she spent the night in my bed, and I saw in her face how much happier she was with me not having sex than if I had. It was just a very different look.

Certified-Nutter · Post by **Certified-Nutter** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 12:41 pm

man, sucks for u, i think ur doin da right thing, but the right thing often sucks the most

Jay212 · Post by **Jay212** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 3:15 pm

You don't want someone who has to makeout/fuck everyone in the room, cuz it might start with just making out now, but eventually she will start having sex and it will be as easy as making out. She's a cheater, simple as that. You had fun with her, but it's over now. Just be friends.

Dakine · Post by **Dakine** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 4:25 pm

maybe she just doesnt like you like that. i dont mean it to be harsh, but maybe she's just not interested.

Bear · Post by **Bear** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 6:18 pm

suggestion, a cheater is always a cheater... remember that.

I once had that exact same feelings for somebody of her sort and trust me man... a rose has very sharp thorns.

sickkid90 · Post by **sickkid90** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 6:59 pm

like talk to her and tell her you dont like her making out with other guys and if she cant keep straight with just you then shes not worth it at all...

and FUCKING a i hate it how girls mostly go for the fag guys that only want sex and shit, i wanna shoot the dudes that treat chicks like shit

ahh w/e, just talk to her about it and tell her you cant go on if she donst keep to you, cuz thats not a working relationshi[.. like i know this girl and she tells me how she goes to her ex's house and smokes and does "a lil less than sex" with her EX and she has a boyfreind, and what is he doing?? having sex with other girls, and she knows it so im like..... WTF?????????

this world is messed up

blazedsubaru · Post by **blazedsubaru** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 7:05 pm

Seriously.
She has done the whole drunk sex thing. She did that for like 6 months, and feels like shit now about it, she won't make that mistake again.

I understand that it's just making out, but jeez it gets to me.

She's getting some help. She says the only thing that makes her happy is getting drunk and partying. It's really sad, really....

When I'm around, she'll come to me, but if I'm not, she's not about to go find me. Which sucks. It's also why I WILL NOT party with her for a while. I don't want to know anymore.

Dakine · Post by **Dakine** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 7:09 pm

ignorance is bliss i guess. see what happens once her therapy or whatever has finished.

Ginners · Post by **Ginners** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 11:31 pm

well imo if you actually like her? and she says she has feeling for her then stick by her, i mean corse if shes fkin u about its gonna hurt, but if you stick by it and show her you actually want to be mates with her even tho shes giving you shit then maybe one day she'll realise you dont wanna mess her about nd things might just pick up

buttermilk · Post by **buttermilk** » Sun Apr 08, 2007 11:52 pm

Ginners wrote:well imo if you actually like her? and she says she has feeling for her then stick by her, i mean corse if shes fkin u about its gonna hurt, but if you stick by it and show her you actually want to be mates with her even tho shes giving you shit then maybe one day she'll realise you dont wanna mess her about nd things might just pick up

Ditch her. Or at least don't hang out with her for a while(like at least a few months). If you stick by her the whole time she'll just think that you don't really give a shit about her makin' out with other guys because you haven't really done anything about it. If she comes crawling back to you, then see how things work out and if she's really sincere.
Cheating is cheating, whether it's sex or making out, drunk or not. When your drunk, your still making a concious descision, and if she can't decide on something so simple drunk, then SHE A HO.
I'm done. I gotta go. Hope this helped.

SpRi7e · Post by **SpRi7e** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 12:06 am

depends how much you like her, try to stick with her if you think she's going to get help and figure out what she is doing is hurting you or just lay off of her for a little bit if you just want to be friends with her and also so you won't get hurt from her doing other stuff behind your back without her really noticing.

spidermanlovesmj · Post by **spidermanlovesmj** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 2:42 am

Iguana wrote:suggestion, a cheater is always a cheater... remember that.

i agree with iggy on that one, about the cheater being a cheater..
however, i think maybe if you still wanna be with her, you can try going to a counselor with her or something
sort stuff out together...

captainMorton · Post by **captainMorton** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 3:22 am

man, you got to realize that there are plenty of fish in the ocean, i really had feelings for this one girl i was going out with then i found out she was cheating on me, felt like shit for a few days, realized she didnt love me back, moved on, a week later i was on a date with sombody else.
you gatta realize that, you will meet sombody else and totally forget about her, trust me..unless your bad with women then, then im not the one you should listen to.

man, itss a good thing all women arnt like that, more guys would be gay

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