Girl Problems

[Weedguru Sensei]

Eh, so what, I'm pulling a pansy move and asking for relationship advice on a public forum

I'm 20 by the way, and I've dated a fair share of girls, but the one I'm seeing in a couple days blows my mind. We've only hung out as friends a couple times, but she told me she was interested in me. She's freakin gorgeous: looks like a model but with a little more ass, intelligent, fun, and her personality is identical to mine. For the first time in my life I'm nervous as hell, and my confidence isnt 100%. I'm questioning everything, where I should take her, what I should say...what if I can't be myself and just have a good time, what if I say stupid shit...just crazy thoughts like that.

Give me some advice boys and girls.

[jonny cockeral]

any good music events? movies? restaurants? similar food tastes?

[Certified-Nutter]

all i can say, is be urself, i mean i have had all those thoughts to, and u cant really stop em, but u can stop urself from acting on em, so amist all those thoughts just try to keep ur calm n dont try n act anything ur not
hope this helps

[Rory]

If I were you I wouldn't take her anywhere. What I've found is that when you go on a date, like go somewhere as opposed to just chillin, there's alot more pressure. I'd say just have her over, put on some tunes, maybe have one drink or smoke a little doob, and just chill out and talk. Load the attention on to her, girls love that shit. Compliments. Lots of compliments, but not so much as to seem creepy. That's easy enough to gauge. Just try and make the mood and setting as relaxed as possible and all will go well. If she's already told you she's down with you then you just gotta play it by ear and it should be excellent. Good luck!

[mast3r]

just show her a really fun time! take her to a fun social activity like a concert, movie, dinner ect. and just have fun and show her that you care about her. Pay for everything and make her feel special. And in my opinion the most important thing is to keep sex out of it! Sex usually just complicates things and can have a bad effect if it becomes an early part of a relationship. Wait for what you feel is the right moment to just put your arms around that girl and go wild and passionate on her. take it slow man and things should go smoothly.

[asswipe]

Yeh, if this would be the first serious date. I'd say take it slow.. show her how you are when your one on one with the girl, compliment her and try making her feel most comfortable. You do have to know, if YOU invite her over, the most pressure probably lies on her shoulders. Don't think/act like your the one being nervous, as she probably is as much as you are. Just make sure your house is in a comfy situation, dim the lights a little, catch a movie and make it late.

If you show her your "gentleman" side on the first date, and things go well, it probably works out to show a "wilder" side on the second.

anyway good luck, just keep in mind that she has much interest in you (otherwise girls don't take the the first step). Maybe talk a little to her friends about how you are and such, try to get closer to her in a nonphysical way (if the oppurtunity allows ofcourse also in a fysical way) but things just go alot easier if you know shit about eachother and trust eachother.

I just noticed this in my relation, the more I TALK with my chick, the more I recieve in love.. sounds a lil blownoff but it just works.

cheers

[(weedguru)scarf]

you're already friends... you said you've hung out a bit... so she already knows what youre like as a guy... so dont worry so much about that... you're nervous so expect some fuck ups and make sure you can just laugh them off ... no big deal.. she will prob laugh too....

you'll be fine chief...

let us all know how it goes!

[Ziggy]

The girl im going out with now is great because she takes me to things i havnt tried or been to before. You say your from Toronto. Blue man group just left so that kind of sucks (ps they were hilarious i thought). So maybe try some other live performance, see if she likes that, try the ontario science center (and for everyone else, try going their on shrooms or something. FUCKING INSANE !) but back to your problem Sensei. Shes already going out with you so that must mean she likes you and not someone your pretending to be just to impress her. And what you wanna do is try new stuff, take her to a variety of thing, some things you like to find shared interests, some things that you dont like (maybe ballet. thats something i do for my girlfriend sometimes). just try a bunch of stuff and its easier to find out what she likes and what shes into that way.

[AbbyRoad]

speaking as a girl that was in a similar situarion except i was the girl of course. you shouldnt worry, if shes tolkd she likes you and you have hung out as friends. she prolly alreadsy knows your a idoit (im just saying your a idoit because most guys are) and doesnt care. and if she likes you, it realy doesnt matter where you go.

[FIRE!!!]

Hahaha, ironic to call a person an idoit, twice. jm

[Weedguru~N0isenkiss3s]

Hahaha, ironic to call a person an idoit, twice. jk

I'm sorry for not responding to this sooner! I definitly wanted to but I was tooo tired to form an actual opinion.

Don't feel so nervous! The responses these guys are giving you make me smile...you guys are definitly not idiots!

You've really got it easy buddy, you KNOW she likes you, you KNOW you like her. Talk to her friends for sure..find out a favorite flower or something, or a favorite chocolate...or something a little more outthere! don't even be afraid to admit you spoke to her friends..If they told you something, it's a sign they approve and she'll know you were interested enough to do your research for her.

And just try to have things to talk about incase of the ever dreaded silence haha it's not really a problem but it can feel awkward sometimes...so, take a glance over our news section even to take note of a few articles. I love having those to sort of mention..usually starts up a whole new conversation.

Anyway, I'm hoping it works out for you! <3<3 my fingers are permanently crossed.

[CaNuCk]

Don't shower her with gifts and compliments like everyone else is saying. If you get her gifts for no reason it might seem to her like your trying to buy her like a prostitute. The occasional compliment is alright but do it too much and it'll lose its value.

[Weedguru~N0isenkiss3s]

Canuck has a point...too many compliments can be a little creepy...definitly say something when you two meet up, especially if she's dressed up at all..

But If a guy brought a present to a first date I wouldn't think he was trying to buy me >>;

[Rory]

Well I never said presents, just some nice compliments.
Just keep it chills and not too intense.

[CaNuCk]

Just remember she's not the prize; it should be mutual, if anything your the prize man. It's the girl that wants you, not the other way around. If you chase her and come off as needy, then nothing good will come out of it.