A bad situation to be in

[Herojuana]

Hey everybody, the following is about a current dilemma I have, if you arent interested in helping then don't waste your time reading it (seriously). thanks to all in advance.

Well guess what I was 18 on Saturday and after being incredibly drunk and sick early on Sunday morning, my parents come to me today and say "Your not going to university if you don't quit smoking weed."

This came about after i asked them if they had "stolen" anything out my bag (my grinder was missing and my new lighter which was a present) They've known i've been smoking for about 4 years now and found out, I think it was the Christmas before last.

They have always hated it but had to put up with it because they simply can't stop me leaving the house etc.

So I'm currently studying at a 6th form college doing Philosophy, ICT and Politics, recently did resit modules and improved my grades from a C,C,E to a B,C,D. yet still my parents seem to think that I will not work if i go to university and have the ability to smoke weed day in day out.

So now i'm stuck with their prejudice. As it stands, If i dont quit smoking weed i'm not going to university. They think it will be a waste of money.
(I have been in private education since I can remember, and it costs alot as most people know) I could quite happily get a job or use my enterprising skills (lol) and setup after i've finished 6th form, but it would still feel like a bit of a waste not goin to uni.

If anyone can give any advice it would be great, I have no idea if I really want to goto university now, I've had to cope with their constant lectures and fall outs over the whole pot thing for far too long it seems.

[cutthecashflow]

Thats what student loans are for. Your parents can no longer legally tell you what you can and cannot do anymore. You are eighteen now. Then again welcome to the world of bills, rent, harder competition in school, a crappy starting job to get by, and daily costs of living that you probably have taken for granted.

By all means your parents no longer bind you, but they can be an amazing friend when you move out on your own. I would just tell them that you are quitting smoking then whenever you get to where you are going to school either light up or dont. It is afterall your descion the ball is in your court. Welcome to adulthood!

[Eugene]

Under their roof, under their rules, simple as that and there's nothing you can do about it if you can't move out...I know the exact position your in as far as parents telling you what to do and shit, but if you live under their roof, there isn't shit you can do about it.

[4*20]

I assume you've lied to them for the past years. I'd keep on doing that, just be more cautious.

[jonny cockeral]

I would do that aswell, go to uni, dont fuck it up though cause then they'll always say they we're right

[weedguru tom]

dont throw your education away for drugs, dont be such a tool.
you have the rest of your life for drugs and fun.

[Crewz666]

go to uni if you want to. it's as simple as that. don't let your parents tell you what to do because you're the one that has to do the work, one way or another.

whether you go or not, just make sure the weed fits into your life, not your life changing because of weed.

[canadianbud]

Make sure you dont make your decisions just so you can do drugs, quit til uni, then at uni smoke as much as you want, they're nowhere near you and wont know shit.

[wgToonces]

If they're not giving you a drug test i dont see what your worry is about, smoke it if you want its not your parents choice.

[Fisett]

hey man, well this is how i did got them to be ok with my smoking...
just let them know that you smoke just to relax, in a wolrd full of crazy
shit happening and not being abble to take vacations and such... we need time to relax and smoking helps you relax as long as you dont do annyrthing stupid, just make sure they know you never smoke at school
and that it dosent affect your grade, just be honest about why you do it
and let them know its not coz you hate your life or whatever

Annyways hope this helps you out man....


fiset

[stonedbridge]

Heroj,

I am in my final year of uni and my parents never found out i smoked so its pretty diff for me BUT i do know where youre coming from.

I concur with those that say fit weed into your life not the other way round. Anyway its nice to stop for a while (ialways do for like 2months a year when i go abroad n shit) then when you start, make sure you dont let your parents see you fucked off your face and youll be ok. Smoke when your out with friends etc n dont bring shit to the house unless you keep it on you all the time or you have a safe. But UNI supercedes anything else. UNI= Diploma = better salary, even if not at start, ut def later on in life itll make it better. hope this helps and goodluck

[stonedbridge]

Heroj,

I am in my final year of uni and my parents never found out i smoked so its pretty diff for me BUT i do know where youre coming from.

I concur with those that say fit weed into your life not the other way round. Anyway its nice to stop for a while (ialways do for like 2months a year when i go abroad n shit) then when you start, make sure you dont let your parents see you fucked off your face and youll be ok. Smoke when your out with friends etc n dont bring shit to the house unless you keep it on you all the time or you have a safe. But UNI supercedes anything else. UNI= Diploma = better salary, even if not at start, ut def later on in life itll make it better. hope this helps and goodluck

PS somehow i double posted which is weird, i apologise to the mods