Cant Live With Em, Cant Make Small Home Repairs Without Em

[AbbyRoad]

nvm then
quick rant equals no advice

got it

Save the bitch fit. That's my job 'round these parts.

ok guys and gals i need a wee bit of advice....

so last night i was talkin on msn with my bf. he is moving to another province in a month, so ive been pretty torn up about it and was talking about my feelings. he was trying to give me advice on how he is dealing and i was rude in response. told him his advice was just a cliche. he said whatever and just logged off. i figured he just got really fustrated and didnt wanna deal with me anymore that night cause we already had plans to chill this afternoon.

then like 15 mins later i notice he has messed around with his fb settings. his relationship status and all wall posts are hidden. includuing the one where i said i hearted him. really weirded me out, and made me feel insecure as fuck.

literally 10 mins before this happened we were saying i love yous, and planning who was staying at who house the next night. we also agreed to do the long distance thing earlier in the day.

so basically i feel LOST

Call him.

If he doesn't pick up then that's your answer right there. In all honesty I wouldn't deal with shit like that..he is a grown man basically throwing a fit on the internet. The relationship obviously means alot to you.enough that you are willing to date him from a far. To quote Ted from How I Met Your Mother...being in love is EASY, ya know? If he chooses to make something that's so easy, difficult as hell, than it's not worth it.

Just my two cents.

[AbbyRoad]

Abby ; you should focus and worry about what you can control and change by yourself, for yourself.

When i'm in a relationship with someone and that i'm having an argument. I expect the other person to argue with me to solve the problem ; it is how it works in a sane relationship.
When i see a couple that does not want to solve a problem, and the only solution they see is temporally cut all links out of rage ; or to get some momentanous calm(not having to solve the problem) I see a HUGE comunication problem. I've been called a faget so much for whining about comunication problem - but i'm not the fagot that has been with a GF that didnt give a fuck about him for months ; if she does not want to co-operate to get the relationship better ; i cut relationshit. No matter how beautiful and nice the girl i am with is.


if my girlfriend does not want to debate and try to solve the problem that has something to do with the future of the relationship. I will get mad, but it's something i can't control. The only thing i can say to obtain what i want(a sane relationship with that person)Is to tell her i won't talk to her unless she wants to solve the problem. If she does not want to - if she wants to be ''right''. Then she will be right. I will dump her - it's probably what she wanted anyways.

That is my opinion. you do whatever the hell you want with it.
By the way it went ; i have no idea how your BF would react to you that wishes to solve the problem. because he seems to think YOU are the problem, when you obviously arnt.

There's a shitloads of fishes in the sea. i've learn that the hardway.

[AbbyRoad]

thanks for the advice and opinions guys. this is my fav place to ask for insights when i need them at 3am lol.

i hope things turn out well for your friend Dan, but if he is really as resilient as you say i can only imagining things turning out ok.

flow, i report every spam post i see if im online for more then 10 minutes. theres just way to much of it

What ended up happening between you to?

he came back online at like 3AM after calming down and being unable to sleep (the guilt monster was totally eating at him)
i apologized for being rude, even tho i still dont think i was that rude. (i only told him his advice was cliche). but obviously it really affected him so an apology was in order.
i did not mention his fb changes that night. i figured there had been enough drama for one night and i could wait til the afternoon to deal with more.

so the next afternoon. i asked him why he changed his fb to say we werent dating, and why he deleted his entire wall.
his response was confusion, sayin his fb said we were still dating and he still had a wall. so he pulled up his page and sure enough it says we are dating.
but when i log into mine and look at his page, it still shows zero relationship status. he couldnt explain why. he must have changed his privacy settings or something. he said he would try to find out what the issue was and fix it.
a few days later i asked him about it and he said he doesnt know what he did and couldnt figure out how to fix it. since it still says on his profile we are dating when he views it and not having a wall doesnt bother him he wasnt going to worry about it.

the issue here is, im the jealous type at heart. i may try to act "cool" but it doesnt really work for long. i cant keep anything bottled up. when i have an issue i deal with it ASAP.if i dont deal with things right away i end up freaking the fuck out
im also pretty damn insecure, so when my jealous and insecure parts mix up its no good. i start having theories that he changed it so when he visits calgary for his cousins wedding none of his friends will know he has a girlfriend and he will be free to fuck whoever he wants for a week and a half.
i actually told him this theory, for the sake of me not going crazy, and he assured me he wont hook up with anyone else.

the insecure part of me is really strong in this relationship because of him leaving for good in august. and ive been really letting it tear me apart.
ive cried almost everyday since we verbally shared our love for each other.
but ive finally reached a decision that has stopped the epic stress and freak out.

i cant change what happening i cant change any decisions he makes. when august comes we shall see what happens. i may get backstabbed, blinded sided and without a doubt im going to be heartbroken.
but i dont have to feel that way UNTIL it happens. why suffer all of july and most of august?
so im being strong and only trying to think positively, and keep those negative thoughts solely at the back of my mind.


btw you guys were totally right i should have made my own topic....imma do that now

[andriaSRH]

The crazy girl side me says ask him for his facebook password and email so you can "upload" some pictures onto his page..or something like that.

The logical side of me says to keep your calm like you are doing now and just wait it out..

The bitch side of me says all men cheat...

[AbbyRoad]

so i feel kinda retarded ranting about my relationship bullshit. but honestly i dont really have anyone to turn to for support. and i need to get these feelins out there as soon as they hit me.
and this place is place has always been there for me, so you guys get to hear everything.


my friend morgan is my bf room mate. and she borrowed his laptop and saw some of his fb convos with his sister.
in seans fb convo he tells his sister that to him this is a summer fling. that he is not on the same level as me, he doesnt feel the same. he doesnt wanna try long distance everything is moving to fast for him. and when he leaves ontario for alberta the reason he doesnt wanna ever come back is because he doesnt wanna be in a relationship with me.

it would be easier if he had said these things to me. rather then lie lie lie to my face.
he said he wanted to try long distance and he hadnt loved anyone like this in years. i dont understand

im torn the fuck up

its not fucking worth it feeling this way ever. i dont wanna be in love anymore.
i wanna punch him in his fucking face.
i hate him just as much as i love him, and its alot



so i guess i wanna ask you guys....
how do you not love someone anymore?

[andriaSRH]

That's a tough question to answer. Everyone has their own way of geting over someone. Get drunk and make out with a random dude..or call Sean and scream at him...IDK.

Obviously this guy is a douche bag and a coward. He can't even tell you how he feels, so he is just gonna lead you on...for what? That's not right. You deserve so much better Abby, you really do.

You need to confront him and tell him exactly how you feel. Be the one who ends is officially before he makes you look like a fool.

And don't worry about spilling your heart out on here. I use WG like my personal journal as well lol.

[Weedguru_Fire_Inside]

How do you not love someone any more?

When you find the answer, let me know. I've been searching for 2 and a half years.

[AbbyRoad]

ya im not finding it either...

the guy is still fuckin around with the emotions myself and all the other people that helped him out while he was living in town.
and still....i have these strong feelings that have not been resolved.

i feel like a fucking idiot

[Ikku]

I noticed you are no longer listed as in a relationship. I hope you feel better. There's always something positive in life to think about. Even if you can't see it.

[AbbyRoad]

i cant see it, but i hope to find it.....

[andriaSRH]

Drown your sorrows with booze.... that's what I'd do anyways.

Sorry your ex was such a douche. You gotta date some frogs before you find the prince.