Another Goddamn Relationship Issue...

[qwertyuiop]

Okay, so if you've been around here long enough you have probably gathered that I can't seem to get anything right with women. Well, I realized a pattern... the last 3 relationships I've had have ended with the chick just breaking down and sayin' "look I can't do this, I must have gotten ahead of myself" or "I'm not emotionally ready to be in a relationship"... and I've found these statements to be complete lies. I know a lot of girls will say that stuff to avoid confrontation and just break it off. I can't begin to fathom why this pattern has arisen though. It just makes me want to give up on relationships. The majority of women when asked will tell you "I want a man who knows when enough is enough, is respectful, responsible, and reasonably intelligent..." well, I've tried to be all of those things and its to a point where it feels pretty natural. Unless I'm completely insane and just have a skewed perception of myself, this must not be what they want. (WHAT DO YOU WANT? FUCK!) and why can't I seem to get this right? I know people will be like "dude, bro, be yourself and quit trying so hard and one day you'll meet someone amazing and..." no I'm not living in a Disney movie so I'm not buyin' into that again. It's becoming an obvoius pattern which I don't wish to continue and it's really starting to wear down my self confidence. This is turning into a rant but assuming you've been awesome enough to read through to this point, what the hell am I to do?

[sugarstalker]

go homo? I'm sorry, I have nothing

[Weedguru Higher]

You can't be what they want...you gotta be yourself

[qwertyuiop]

Well of course, Higher, but that's what lead to all this. I just don't want to be in the same position i was a year ago and end up flippin my shit in the worst possible way.

[andriaSRH]

go homo? I'm sorry, I have nothing

I totally thought you were a noob XD

I know people will be like "dude, bro, be yourself and quit trying so hard and one day you'll meet someone amazing and..." no I'm not living in a Disney movie so I'm not buyin' into that again

Maybe there's a reason why people keep telling you that...it's actually true. Of course anyone can come in here and overanalyize your situation ...in my eyes when it all comes down to it you just have to be yourself. What is the point in being in a relationship with a girl if you are acting like someone else? You should be with a girl who likes you for you man.

I totally skimmed through your post so maybe I got that all wrong..lol. My bad if that's the case.

[AbbyRoad]

i seriously have no other advice on how to find good women other than be yourself and quit looking

but....
maybe all your gfs end up saying they cant take it and leave because you guys move to fast. maybe take things slow next time and not try to force someone your dating into someone your having a relationship with.

i hope that helps man, sorry if im way off base

[midnight_stoner]

i to have encountered issues with the succubus kind. Don't worry one day you'll meet a real human female.

[SpRi7e]

hey brotha.. here's something for you to consider

maybe it's not you... it's them.

keep being yourself, people can sense when you aren't acting normal and trying to live up to some imaginary expectations will just make it worse. Fuck em', you'll find a new girl who's right for you in time.. just keep yourself open and available for anything

[WeedGuru_Flow]

Same here buddy, whenever I meet new women they for whatever reason classify me as instant friend.


I'm guessing it has something to do with my psoriasis, people are shallow these days so having a skin condition doesn't exactly help. I don't come from a rich family so that doesn't help either, seems like dumb arrogant cocks can get women with the wealth they have, I loathe this society for what it is. Bunch of shallow fucktards.


Only positive I can think of is that when a woman does show interest it is genuine, unfortunately most women are shallow golddigging bitches.

[SpRi7e]

nah, bitches are shallow golddigging bitches.. not women

I've kind of also started figuring out why guys get the friend card more often than others for some reason. Some guys try to get with girls by trying to be close to the girl, to maybe bullshit and make them seem more so the same. Like you agree with her a lot, or you always give her the choice to do things.. They like guys who sometimes keep em' on their toes, shows confidence in what they do/say (ie. suggesting what plans to do, or even just their body language) and girls sense it from a mile away.

Why do arrogant assholes get the girls? They're confident, they aren't afraid of disagreeing and possibly end up arguing, that's the major difference with the 'friend' and 'boyfriend' is the confidence factor they show around them, they make it shown that they have power, and last.. those guys can make girls feel special through persistence. You know what usually come out of people like that though? The arrogant asshole gets the bitch.. not the women, the more sensitive guy won't get the bitch, but he might get the women.

I've also realized.. the arrogant cocky assholes usually view relationships like a game, and not much more...which is why the get the bitches

any of the female members reading this please answer back, I wanna see your opinions on this too..

[andriaSRH]

That's all pretty spot on.

[AbbyRoad]

i gotta agree with you spri7e.
my ex was a super nice guy. and he did pretty much everything i asked of him.
id be like "get me a glass of water bitch" and hed hop to it. and we never fought about anything. he didnt keep his beliefs if they clashed with mine. so i eventually got bored of it and "fell out of love". i told him i felt like we were only friends now. and that all the relationship chemistry was gone. and we broke up.

my current bf. what attracted me was his confidence. he doesnt give a fuck if i disagree with him about something. he stands by his beliefs. this is one of the main things that attracted me to him. but now that we have been dating for almost 2 years. it does it a lil tiring. he walks the fine line of being a douche and a strong individual.

know. re reading your posy spri7e. it kinda implies that because i got sick of the nice guy. im a bitch. i dont think im a bitch, like i can be one. but thats not who i am.
and i dont think you meant it that way anyways...

[SpRi7e]

nah I didn't mean it like that.. now when I mean more sensitive person, I mean someone who can still stand up for themselves, maybe not all the time, but is more in touch with things. It's not completely black and white like that obviously (like in your situation)

[AbbyRoad]

in reality my situation wasnt so black and white either
it just easier to describe it that way

[king]

i think both males and females are attracted to the same type...meaning girls are attracted to guys who are confident and take control of the situation and don't take shit...but obviously there is a fine line between that and a guy that acts like a douche....and guys...well atleast in my case...like a girl who is self-confident...not bitchy but somewhere along that line where they will stand up for themselves when they have to...but are also sweet...smart...and don't act like they are hot shit. Obviously there are no perfect ones out there but i think its the ability to communicate and be true to yourselves that brings out all these good qualities.