How do you deal?

[§wï§hå§wêê†ïê]

So my question here is how do you deal with it when ppl that are suppose to care about you the most, rag on for smokin, Im a total stoner who LOVES smoking, I love talking about it I love doing it and I love being lifted.. Its the only thing that has never failed to make me happy and when Im bl@zed I feel so confident and so complete but my bf always gets jealous when im bl@zed, and he smokes dro (very rarely) but used to be a weedhead in the past, he says he's never met anyone who loves weed as much as I do and he gets put off by it, but contradicts himself because when Im not high he will tell me to go smoke just so he doesnt have to deal with my attitude or whatever, basically Im just tired of being put down for something that makes me happy in life. Ive lived a hard life and green is my stress reliever to let go of all the bad and focus on being happy for the little good that I have in my life.

[Weedguru_RyaNayR]

i thought this was going to be about how to be a dealer... lol, sorry.

umm... not really sure what to tell ya... just do what feels right... i don't know, i think it will work itself out somehow.

confront your bf about his behavior and tell him he's making you feel bad. Also ask him what his issue is with you smoking. It may be different than what you thought...

hopfully someone else can chime in with some more helpful advice... *hint*

[Grrrl]

firstly hello and welcome to wg

you're problem sounds very familiar to me, how old are you and your boyfriend and how long have you been together? Have you spoke about why he feels that way? Seems like he is jelous because he thinks you prioritise weed over him. Did you smoke before you were together? If so did you highlight its importance in your life before you got together with him? I always make it clear to new partners my stance on smoking (I'm not EVER going to quit esp on anyone elses terms, because I feel it is an integral part of what makes me, me and I wont sacrafice that for anybody) to try and avoid this kind of problem arising. About a year and a half ago, a person I had been with for three years, told me I had to choose between him and bud, to cut a long story short I chose bud. If I hadn't I'd be in a stuck in an unhappy marriage wishing I hadn't sold myself out. So basically, you have to do what is right for you, stay true to yourself, and dont let ANYone make you feel bad for being yourself. Hope whatever you decide to do it works out for the best

[weedguru_waffles]

i thought this was going to be about how to be a dealer... lol, sorry.

umm... not really sure what to tell ya... just do what feels right... i don't know, i think it will work itself out somehow.

confront your bf about his behavior and tell him he's making you feel bad. Also ask him what his issue is with you smoking. It may be different than what you thought...

hopfully someone else can chime in with some more helpful advice... *hint*

hahaha me too!!
but yeah, i would say talk to him about it. Best way to really get the problem solved like that is to talk to your bf, tell him how you feel.

[andriaSRH]

Ditto about the title lol.

Funny thing about weed...it makes me not give a fuck about what other people think of me. If something makes me happy, no matter how other people feel about it.. I will always do what makes me blissfully happy.

In order for people to at least tolerate what you do, you have to compromise. Maybe you could refrain from talking about weed around people that don't want to hear about it?

You're bf gets jealous when you're high? Thats weird. Why did he stop smoking in the first place?
I don't have any advice for that besides get a cooler bf jkjk. I'm with waffles, just talk to him about it. ..maybe try to convince him to start toking with you.

Not trying to go all Dr.Phil on you....just do what feels right like Higher said. Never change yourself for other peoples happiness.

[Weedguru Higher]

^ Umm...I didn't say anything....

I don't think anybody should have to change their ways for their significant other...

If you guys can't see eye to eye on the matter, then maybe it ain't made to be...

[andriaSRH]

Opps lol.

I guess your and RyaNayR's avatars do look alike..somehow.

[Weedguru Higher]

Up until a few days ago I had that green and black Nike avatar...I changed it cause it looked to much like Ryan's..I thought this one was enough different...guess not eh lol

[SpRi7e]

shit I smoke weed all the time..but I get annoyed when people TALK about it all the time. I smoke because I love the way it makes me feel..

I'm going to pull away from what everyone thinks and give you some of MY advice.. it seems like weed is your hobby, your life, your thought process.. now there draws a line for me when people let weed control their life. It should be the other way around.. From what I've noticed, people who constantly talk about it and do it ALL the time are either 1. addicted (yes WG, i said addicted) to weed and it's never fun being around an addict when you aren't yourself 2. have no other hobby's so they replace smoking as it, then it will fade away quicker (they get sick of it, and move to something else) or the harder one for people to accept 3. they're too boring/have inner issues that makes them never want to stay sober..

All 3 of those are NOT fun being around with if the person isn't in the same predicament.

Now here's some questions, why do you smoke? what makes you want to be high all the time? Is going overboard on a drug (omg WG I said another blasphemist thing) worth losing a relationship over?

Remember, you two are at separate points in your life, he decided to slow down/stop for certain reasons.. Now the BEST way to get around this is to compromise (which I'm sure other people have said) I would suggest cutting back on it, not talking about it as much and having your life REVOLVE around weed. Then I'm sure he'll be happier, and you'll learn to be happier without needing it.

[wgToonces]

Some people just get lost in their own weedy world.. But most people soon grow up from it.

[Weedguru_Fire_Inside]

Did you smoke before you were together? If so did you highlight its importance in your life before you got together with him? I always make it clear to new partners my stance on smoking (I'm not EVER going to quit esp on anyone elses terms, because I feel it is an integral part of what makes me, me and I wont sacrafice that for anybody) to try and avoid this kind of problem arising.

Damn Fucking Straight. I couldn't possibly say it any better.

[andriaSRH]

shit I smoke weed all the time..but I get annoyed when people TALK about it all the time. I smoke because I love the way it makes me feel..

From what I've noticed, people who constantly talk about it and do it ALL the time are either 1. addicted (yes WG, i said addicted)

You pretty much said what I was thinking..I would have said it but I didn't want to scare off her so quickly

[SpRi7e]

Just being completely honest with my observations.. she saw 1 side from everybody, and this is a forum.. so she better dammed well see the other sides of things too

[§wï§hå§wêê†ïê]

i thought this was going to be about how to be a dealer... lol, sorry.

umm... not really sure what to tell ya... just do what feels right... i don't know, i think it will work itself out somehow.

confront your bf about his behavior and tell him he's making you feel bad. Also ask him what his issue is with you smoking. It may be different than what you thought...

hopfully someone else can chime in with some more helpful advice... *hint*

Thank you very much for your advice, next time he gives me attitude about it or trys to blow my high I will ask him plain out why he does what he does..

[§wï§hå§wêê†ïê]

Thanks to everyone for your honest advice and replys. I really appreciate it and I will make sure to look at things from both sides.. There was a time before I was a smoker and now that I am a smoker so I def. will take heed to that. Thanks again..