what would you do

[Weedguru_Falkon]

Well, what I would have done is not what you did so what was the point of this thread...

the point was to gain insight into how other people would handle a similar situation, so I could get ideas or gauge my own actions.

this i why women piss ppl off they break up so the guy gets all emotional and might even find or screw someone else...you fucking broke up so u cant call it cheating then they come back

Word. If she wants to be single right now there's definitely a reason for it. The fact that she's so vague about the reason makes it seem even more suspicious.


It sounds like the concert just made you miss her more. In my eyes you made the situation worse by asking her what the hand holding was about and trying to see if you guys are gonna get back together. To her you're coming off as a boy who's head over heels for her. One that she can take advantage of and use how she wants. The sooner you stop acting like you still love her the better things will be for you, even if you have to fake it. Keeping your distance now is better than getting taken advantage of and getting hurt later on.

If it's true love and she wants to come back to you then she will, but right now it sounds like you're just pushing her further away. You really gotta stop being part of her life for now.

You never told us how the sleeping situation worked out or what happened with the family situation.

There's a guest room in her house that I always use. I stayed here last night because, well like I said, i wasn't going to drive another half hour down last night and up again this morning since I had work.

So we get home, she decides to go hang out with her sister. Cool, i'll have the place to myself, whatever, just bought some absinthe so I'll get drunk and watch a movie.
Shit's going fine until I go to bed. A couple hours later her drunk ass mom busts into my room and turns on the light
"Where's corry??"
the fuck should I know. I'm not her babysitter. She went to hang out with her sister in k***s.
"You went to the concert with her! where the fuck is she? you mean you just left her? WHERE IS SHE?"
fuck woman I told you. i'm not her babysitter so fuckin leave me alone.
she glared at me, then slammed the door.
I was so pissed at that point I was afraid i was going to beat the shit out of her. Not only am i having issues with corry, but now her mom is doing shit, on top of the rest of my life problems.

heart was racing for a few hours, thanks to her, so sleep was short last night. and thats how that went.
corry says shes gonna visit me at work today and talk to me about it, and if she doesnt show, im cutting shit off.

[Dr. Greenthumb]

Sounds like a shitty situation all around. You probably should've cut it off already but I know that can be alot tougher than it sounds, especially when you're dealing with other shit in your life. I just think it sounds like you're holding out for something that isn't going to happen.

Let us know how it works out.

[Weedguru_Falkon]

Yeah, i pretty much came to that realisation. I'm working on distancing myself from her. I was thinking maybe we could work shit out in the future, but... Well, i don't want to sound like an asshole (though, after this, i don't see how I could) but there's another girl. I'd had suspicions that we have liked each other for a while, been hesitant about it, but tonight I found out pretty solidly. Only problem is that she lives two states away...

Oh well. she's one of the most attractive and deep girls I know, and she wants to find a way to make things work.


woot.

[weedguru_animal]

Yep, hey fellow WG, turning to you guys again. Most of you know that shits pretty shitty for me right now, but i need some advice on a specific situay.

a week or two before my girlfriend and i broke up we bought tickets to go to warped tour together. awesome, it'll e fun. the following week she breaks up and says to still be friends. Ok, i think, fine, pretty much what we've been doing this whole time anyway what with the lack of sex and romance and shit so ok, fine, we'll go as friends.

so now she barely has even been talking to me. I told her that my mom has cancer and I don't even know how much longer she'll be alive and her ONLY reply is "oh shit." via text. what the FUCK. Sorry, but that shits not ok. No "I'm really sorry, i wish I could help" or "fuck thats rough, are you ok? can i help" after all isn't that what friends are for?

So anyway she has the tickets, and doesn't have a car or drive, so she wants me to go pick her up, take her to the concert, and take her back home afterwards because "she doesn't want to stay at my place". ridiculous. BTW, the drive up to get her is 30 minutes one way. so an hour and a half of driving total just to take her to a concert that we wanted to go to, TOGETHER, a couple weeks ago, and now were broken up and she's being like this.

... *sigh* thoughts?

I am sorry that the two of you have fractured, Falkon...as I have become aware, over the time you have been together, that you have felt truly strongly for her, and perhaps not had the easiest of paths together. The ONLY bright side of this foulness is that its healthy for you to learn to suffer like this, NOW, rather than enjoy easy relationships, then get married, have kids, and then...find yourself in the mire. As an older, wiser mate, once told me, when i was whining and wailing about my split from a girl i had been with for 4 years, chased across the world, and been chased back across the world by her, then got engaged, then skanked for a fucking Shrek lookalike with a smart car and decent wage...'be thankful, little one...and imagine how those poor fuckers who have never suffered such trauma react when they hit 40 and their wives leave them'. Indeed.

But back to your issue in hand.

You are clearly still feeling hurt. Understandably so. You two split up for a reason. Your mention of your saddening maternal matters is obviously hard for your X to deal with...She is faced with a dilemma. Does she run to you, hold you, knowing that the feelings between you both still run fiercely through the veins? Or does she respond, but play dead. Neither run to you, nor offer assistance??? I can understand her stance, though also understand how you expected so much more...

As to the tickets. I would suggest a clean break, IF, as I perceive, perhaps wrongly, you harbour any energetic devotion to Her and You. Its the only way. Make yourself an island. Strengthen what has become weak and needy and reliant. For your own good. And keep the fuck away from anything that causes pain. Meaning HER. Other than that, make sure you eat damn well. You get what you give, and in your case, I suspect that this story has fucked you up mightily, as it would do to any openly feeling creature. So the minimum needed, however fucked your heart and mind and spirit are, is to give your body decent fuel.

Good luck, and take care, mate.
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[Weedguru_Falkon]

Thanks man. We ended up going to the concert, which was.. ehhhhhhhokkkkay, i guess. Shit got a bit better after, and then she slain my heart after, so I've pretty much cut her out of my life. It's a terrible feeling opening yourself to someone, and every time being cut down to a pile of shitty emotion.

Anyway, i'm making good progress on another girl i've known for about a year now, only problem is that she lives 800 miles /1300 km away... so... yeah thats a bit of a bitch. I hope to be flying out to see her in the next month, then she'll be coming out a few months later... Still sucks though. I hope we can maintain a strong bond, for she plans to move out here as soon as she can, in a year or so.