what would you do

[Weedguru_Falkon]

Yep, hey fellow WG, turning to you guys again. Most of you know that shits pretty shitty for me right now, but i need some advice on a specific situay.

a week or two before my girlfriend and i broke up we bought tickets to go to warped tour together. awesome, it'll e fun. the following week she breaks up and says to still be friends. Ok, i think, fine, pretty much what we've been doing this whole time anyway what with the lack of sex and romance and shit so ok, fine, we'll go as friends.

so now she barely has even been talking to me. I told her that my mom has cancer and I don't even know how much longer she'll be alive and her ONLY reply is "oh shit." via text. what the FUCK. Sorry, but that shits not ok. No "I'm really sorry, i wish I could help" or "fuck thats rough, are you ok? can i help" after all isn't that what friends are for?

So anyway she has the tickets, and doesn't have a car or drive, so she wants me to go pick her up, take her to the concert, and take her back home afterwards because "she doesn't want to stay at my place". ridiculous. BTW, the drive up to get her is 30 minutes one way. so an hour and a half of driving total just to take her to a concert that we wanted to go to, TOGETHER, a couple weeks ago, and now were broken up and she's being like this.

... *sigh* thoughts?

[Blunt Docta]

dude
to me it sounds like shes partially using you, and i see that u care for her and if she cant be there and shit for your problem, like with your mom (im really sorry to hear that man that is horrible) then you should just move on. i mean i know its really hard to do because when you love somebody its not that easy, but one deserves much better if somebody is gonna act like that. like there is another girl out there that would acknowlage you. i know how you feel about her just blowin you off, had same situation sorta awhile back. but sometimes moving on is a good thing to do , in the end you'll just be 10X stronger. you could go to concert and whatnot with her but i gotta admit that is fucked up yall had plans and now she just askin you to bring her to her house afterwards. all you can do is tell her how you really feel, and see what she says, and if shes not like acknowalging your feelings, you deserve much better. l mean shit happens for a reason , and in the end it all makes sense.
that probley dont help much, but in my opinon, i would just tell her how you feel truley, and see what shesays, and if she continues to blow you off, move on man.

in the end you'll be that much smarter, and that much stronger
and if shit doesnt work out, god knows theres a girl for you that would do shit right.

[Dr. Greenthumb]

She's definitely using you.

So assuming you paid for your ticket already...
If you think you're going to have a good time you might want to go along with it. If the nights goes good it would leave things on good terms or maybe even get you some ass. If that doesn't work maybe you can at least convince her to sleep at your place on the sofa or something. If you DON'T wanna go then either give up the cash or have her go with someone else who will hopefully be paying you for the ticket and getting you that money back.

Personally, I would go. If I was trying not to fuck her, I would set some ground rules for myself. Although if I agreed to go it would probably be because I still want her, at least one more time. I would try and go mentally prepared to have a good time without getting to attached to her. I'd try and remind her of the good times, get in her pants, and try not to cuddle afterwards. Then after that I'd try not to talk to her for a while.

Good luck

edit: Sorry about your mom, I lost a parent to cancer. Hang in there.

[JokersAce]

Solution: If you can't get the ticket back and take some other bitch out or an actual friend, then just don't pick her up.

[Bubbles]

sell the ticket.

[Gorecore]

This is what I would do if I were in your shoes.

I'd tell her what time to be ready to pick her up for the show. Arrive at her place to pick her up and pretend to hand her her ticket. Before she can grab it, snatch it back and rub it PROFUSELY on your genitals while screaming at the top of your lungs, "I'M SO FUCKING VULGAAARRR!" Then wipe your ass with the ticket, drop it on the ground, and drive away.

The ass-wiping part will be much more effective if you have one of those peanut buttery-type shits before going there and NOT wiping when you're finished. Bring some moist towelettes with you to the show to clean your stank ass before scoping the crowd for a new hottie.

[Mate]

haha
that so makes me thing of the asswhipin scene in harold in khumar
it's so well acted it made me cry laughing.

Anyway - the character taht whips his ass is definitly one of the funniest character i've seen in my life yet.

[weedguru_waffles]

hmm, in a sense it does sound like she's using you. I broke up with my bf, yet we're still friends. We'll still talk.... sometimes. But we are a little more distant just for the reason that I don't want to lead him on and give the wrong impression until he gets over me. Just like you, we bought sublime tickets a while back, and the concert is coming up. We're both still going to see them together... (I have the tickets, but he payed for his half...) Soo maybe she's doing the same... (I don't know who broke up with who...) but maybe she just doesn't want to lead you on or let any emotions rise up again...idk. I could be wrong. But I could understand why she wouldn't want to stay over at your house. I wouldn't want to either.
But the thing about the cancer thing, sorry to hear that man... that sucks, and that wasn't a really good reaction on her part, but maybe she just didn't know how to react to that. Everyone reacts differently to bad news. Maybe she just needs time to absorb it... But then again, I can't say that I know her.... just hypothetically speaking I guess.
Also about the ticket, you can tell her to give your money back and take someone else perhaps if you don't really want to go....
Hope everything turns out ok though.

[andriaSRH]

Tell her you'll hold on the tickets for safe keeping (or figure out you're own way of getting them)

When you go to pick her up, lock the door, when she tries to open the door, move your car up. She'll laugh it off and walk over to the car and try to get in...then drive off.

What kind of heartless bitch doesn't care that her ex bfs mom is dying? >.<

If any of my exes told me their mom was dying I would at least go over to his house and spend time with him.

[Weedguru_Falkon]

I can understand her not wanting to stay at my house, but since I'm the one doing all the driving, I don't think it's exactly fair that she gets to go wherever she wants on my time. If we were together, not a problem for me taking her back to her house. I have a place to stay there and it would be fine.

But now, not only are we not together, but her family is staying here, and that just makes it real awkward for me. They all know she broke up with me, so they're all acting weird towards me. And there's no fucking way I'm going to drive back down to my house after dropping her off at hers, because tomorrow, i have to come right back up here anyway for work.

And apparently, about the lack of giving a shit about my moms cancer, she was apparently up in the mountains, so.. she.. could only send.. short texts... ...? anyway, she apologized and followed with saying that she'll be there for me as much a I need her to be, which raises another problem entirely, because, well, she can't really be there for me as much as I need now can she, having broken up with me?

[Dr. Greenthumb]

It's probably best to just stay away from her right now. Sounds like you're pretty bothered with her right now, and for good reason. That being said how are you suppose to have a good time with someone you're having a problem with. It might just end up leading to an argument. If the ticket wasn't to much you should just think about bailing.

Don't expect her to be there for you right now. You shouldn't even ask her because it'll only make you feel worse when it doesn't work out the way you want it to. Stay away from her and her family...no reason to be spending time with your ex or her family unless you're really getting something out of it.

[Weedguru_Falkon]

^ yeah... pretty egoistic, but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do.

Anyway, we went to the concert. It was fun, more or less. Saw one of my all time favorite bands for the first time.. and got kicked in the head, but thats what happens at punk shows. But fuckin... yeah we get to a point to where we're making the wall of the pit and basically brace onto each other. Fine and good, I wanted to protect her so she wouldn't get fucked up, but then afterwards she grabs my hand and we hold hands for a few minutes. ok... well... maybe shit got repaired?

I ask her after the show and she said "it was just instinct. It wasn't bad... i mean, i hel onto it, but.." so I was like well thats just not really cool. you're holding onto my hand, but not meaning for it to mean anything..

fuck. i dunno. I asked her whether this is a break, or a breakup, since, to me, breakup is significantly... more permanent, at this juncture. said she doesn't know, she just wants to take this month "for herself" and then see.
who knows. i guess i need to sort my own shit out in that time anyway, but... being friends is too hard, although shes the only real person close to me anymore, so if I cut ties there, i risk having no one.

[jcube69]

this i why women piss ppl off they break up so the guy gets all emotional and might even find or screw someone else...you fucking broke up so u cant call it cheating then they come back and are all like omfg wtf why would u do thta how can you believe i am serious i was angry...well shit dont say that then..when u say thats it...its kind of it very simple words..
/rant

can always make it look like your hanging around with another girl too esp if its someone she doesnt aprove of and see where things go from there

[JokersAce]

Well, what I would have done is not what you did so what was the point of this thread...

[Dr. Greenthumb]

this i why women piss ppl off they break up so the guy gets all emotional and might even find or screw someone else...you fucking broke up so u cant call it cheating then they come back

Word. If she wants to be single right now there's definitely a reason for it. The fact that she's so vague about the reason makes it seem even more suspicious.


It sounds like the concert just made you miss her more. In my eyes you made the situation worse by asking her what the hand holding was about and trying to see if you guys are gonna get back together. To her you're coming off as a boy who's head over heels for her. One that she can take advantage of and use how she wants. The sooner you stop acting like you still love her the better things will be for you, even if you have to fake it. Keeping your distance now is better than getting taken advantage of and getting hurt later on.

If it's true love and she wants to come back to you then she will, but right now it sounds like you're just pushing her further away. You really gotta stop being part of her life for now.

You never told us how the sleeping situation worked out or what happened with the family situation.