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I was wondering if any of you guys could help me out. Whenever I'm at a party or some social thing I meet chicks, but they're usually the type that will talk to you for an hour then conveniently mention they're dating someone at the time. How do you cut past all the bullshit without seeming like an asshole?
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Keep your ears perked up during the conversation to add the line, "Ach! Your boyfriend must hate that!" or "What does your boyfriend think when you do that?" or something similar. Take any chance to throw in the word 'boyfriend' and see what she says.

Her- Hi...wow, this is some party, isn't it?
You- Damn, your boyfriend must HATE that!!

Her- I'm so hammered right now!
You- What does your boyfriend think about that??

And so on... :lol:
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Yep, that's what I would suggest also. There's not really much else you can do to find out other than straight out asking
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you could always be up front with her and ask if her boyfriend is at the party.
she will either say yes, no or i dont have one.

personally, when im talking to a guy and i start feeling like he is "interested" in me i casually mention i have a bf. this is often an hour into the conversation, anything less then that is just small talk
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yeah i guess it swings both ways...
one might be having an innocent convo... the other wants more
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qwertyuiop wrote:I was wondering if any of you guys could help me out. Whenever I'm at a party or some social thing I meet chicks, but they're usually the type that will talk to you for an hour then conveniently mention they're dating someone at the time. How do you cut past all the bullshit without seeming like an asshole?
I don't see how you could appear like an asshole, if a female is happy with your obvious flirtatious attention, and you ask...'so...you seem like a cool lady, do you fancy spending some time with just the two of us, for i don't meet many wicked women, but you are cleary amongst that endangered species group'....

and if they have a boyfriend, pity their man.
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AbbyRoad wrote:you could always be up front with her and ask if her boyfriend is at the party.
she will either say yes, no or i dont have one.

personally, when im talking to a guy and i start feeling like he is "interested" in me i casually mention i have a bf. this is often an hour into the conversation, anything less then that is just small talk
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Yup, just be real with her and cut the bullshit. It will save you alot of grief.
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andriaSRH wrote:
AbbyRoad wrote:you could always be up front with her and ask if her boyfriend is at the party.
she will either say yes, no or i dont have one.

personally, when im talking to a guy and i start feeling like he is "interested" in me i casually mention i have a bf. this is often an hour into the conversation, anything less then that is just small talk
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Yup, just be real with her and cut the bullshit. It will save you alot of grief.
ya and if she doesnt want to cut it out with her bullshit; then its not even worth it
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Post by WeedGuru_Flow »

But you just said it yourself abby : you talk to a guy, after about an hour you know he's interested and then you tell him you have a bf.

So that's a whole fucking hour wasted trying to talk you up ;)
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weedguru_animal wrote: I don't see how you could appear like an asshole, if a female is happy with your obvious flirtatious attention, and you ask...'so...you seem like a cool lady, do you fancy spending some time with just the two of us, for i don't meet many wicked women, but you are cleary amongst that endangered species group'....

and if they have a boyfriend, pity their man.
Just tell her what you have to tell, you're creating the bullshit waiting for something. YOU need to generate stuff in life, or nothing will happen most of the time.
you won't be an asshole at all for asking if she as a boyfriend.

it's ok to be interested into a woman when you're a man.
it's ok if you want to know if she's already with someone... that pretty much changes your whole attitude towards her.
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Post by Weedguru_Fire_Inside »

never beat around the bush. if you wanna say something, say it. there's no point wasting time on the build up to be shot down. in the same respect, there's no point in waiting for an hour for the answer you want.

just be straight up and ask.
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AbbyRoad wrote:you could always be up front with her and ask if her boyfriend is at the party.
she will either say yes, no or i dont have one.

personally, when im talking to a guy and i start feeling like he is "interested" in me i casually mention i have a bf. this is often an hour into the conversation, anything less then that is just small talk
Abby I am sorry to tell you this truth, but you are being pretty naieve. Men, dont talk to you cos they want a cool new friend, they to talk to you cos they want to fuck you almost 95% of the time, whether they admit it or not.
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WeedGuru_Rasta_Grrrl wrote:
AbbyRoad wrote:you could always be up front with her and ask if her boyfriend is at the party.
she will either say yes, no or i dont have one.

personally, when im talking to a guy and i start feeling like he is "interested" in me i casually mention i have a bf. this is often an hour into the conversation, anything less then that is just small talk
Abby I am sorry to tell you this truth, but you are being pretty naieve. Men, dont talk to you cos they want a cool new friend, they to talk to you cos they want to fuck you almost 95% of the time, whether they admit it or not.
i dunno about 95% but it's definately over 50%.

depends on the situation. i wouldn't walk up to a random girl and ask her if she wanted a new friend, lol.

speaking from the male sexual prowice - multiple times, daily, do i look at a fine girl and think "Man, i would fuck her." Never any thought of friendship.

Truth be told, i've met girls who are just as bad.
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Post by Mate »

no. men are a bunch of diphit.
Women are perfect and flawless.....

honestly rastaa girl - from the mid-nude pics i've seen from you on here in the past - you look like someone that loves being flirted and looked on... you get what you act for. if you plant cucumber seeds, you will get cucumbers.

it's like saying

WHETER THEY ADMIT IT OR NOT 95% of chicks talk to you only for your money and their own entertainement.
it's complete bullshit coming from guys who has nothing else than their money to offer (80% of guys actually)
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For fuck sakes, I had typed up a response to this question for over an hour and it was really good, implementing the psychology of situations like this and when I went to submit it, I was logged out and all of my information was lost due to the page being expired. There has to be something that prevent's all of my work from getting lost like this.... (Checking the keep me logged in box maybe?).
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