Wow... this sucks *UPDATED!*

[logically]

Hey everyone...

I am sort of hesitant to post this on here cause i usually keep my real personal stuff off the internet...

i just found out my dad has cancer.

We aren't really sure about a lot of the details yet, how aggressive it is, what type... etc...

but shit guys... I'm really scared... My dad is is only 49....

do any of you guys have experience with this kind of thing? What do i do? what do I say?

I have always had a decent relationship with my dad and this is just out of nowhere... he is in really great shape, he excersises like a maniac... he gets compliments from girls my age...

He is really confident he can beat it.... I hope he can...

Anyways... i guess any advice or experience you have with this would be useful...

[weedguru_waffles]

Sorry to hear this.
My grandpa also died of cancer... but I didn't know him too well... so can't help you out much there.
However I know that one of my coworkers husband recently passed away from cancer. He was a trooper though. He got pneunomia several times while fighting cancer, has fluid in the lungs... he had so many other disease... and he kept surviving. The doctors told him he had 2 months to live, but he lived for another year after that. So doctors can be wrong... Hope everything turns out ok though.

[Weedguru Higher]

I'm sorry to hear Logically...

That's a really rough thing to deal with

[andriaSRH]

I'm so sorry man, my heart goes out to you and your family.

My boss had breast cancer, she was a hell of a trooper. She still went to work, even when the chemo was making her ill.

We sell this little flipbook that has little smartass sayings on it. One day I flipped it to say something retarded or whatever. I noticed my boss flip the book to a different page. The page said said something like "I don't need anyone to feel sorry for me."

In her case she wanted everyone to treat her normally, like nothing was wrong. I think that's the best way to go about things. Don't treat him like he is fragile.

When you say "I hope he can"...don't say stuff like that. Know that he can beat it. Believe it. Share in his confidence.

*Sorry I was uber lit last night, I hope this didn't come off as rude :/

[Certified-Nutter]

man that really sucks, i kno the feeling

havnt really told many peeps, but hes 43 atm and the doctors give him 5 years tops, but then again they gave him five years tops 20 years ago.
he doesnt have cancer tho... hes really has too many to name, basicaly his immune system is quickly weakening from all the shit and medication, which causes him to catch more shit, that further deteriates his immune system, etc etc
altho hes bin told before, when he told me a few weeks ago twas the first time i could sense that he believed this time it was for real.
feel major sorry for him, n after the divorce n all he hasnt really seen me or my bro that much, all you can really do though is try your best to let him kno ur there and that u care.
tis ok to let him kno you worry n are scared, but i personaly wouldnt overemphasis that cos negative thinking is contagious.

good luck with it, i hope its minor enough for it to be treated easily

[Gorecore]

Yes, that really does suck to hear about your Dad. Considering he's still young, takes care of himself, and seems to have an agressive "this won't beat me" stance against the cancer, I think he'll be just fine. I'll keep my fingers crossed for your family that everything turns out fine.

Remember that we're all here for you if you need us.

[pkkupo]

^Yeah man, I'm sorry to hear this... Sounds like a great guy, def doesn't deserve it. There are lots of beatable kinds of cancer, and his fitness should definitely help his case... I hope he's ok, man. Really.

[Weedguru_Fire_Inside]

i've no idea how you should go about this. I think the best way would be to just act naturally. You gotta let him know that you care and that you're in there with him, but other than that you just gotta be the person you know you are. More importantly, the person he knows you are.

You just gotta tough it out with him really.

[logically]

When you say "I hope he can"...don't say stuff like that. Know that he can beat it. Believe it. Share in his confidence.

*Sorry I was uber lit last night, I hope this didn't come off as rude :/

actually that is really encouraging, thank you.

and thank you everyone for all your support with this. You guys are the best bunch of virtual friends a guy could ask for.

[(weedguru)scarf]

My condolences buddy. It's always incredibly difficult news no matter the type of cancer it is. I agree with the notion of staying positive and staying yourself around your dad. Continue to do the same things you always do.

[Mate]

That post should remember you guys your parents and family isnt here forever.
never forget to tell them how much you love them and appreciate everything they did for you.

because once they are gone, it's too late.

[Mate]

HAVE A FUCKIN NICE DAY !

[WeedGuru_Flow]

HAVE A FUCKIN NICE DAY !

In mate's defense: some bot twat posted something along the lines of 'Hi i'm also a new member,could I get a warm welcome? Good day to you guy' and I deleted it because it's quite disrespectful, Mate was responding to that.




And i'm sorry buddy, but you have to know that 49 isn't that old at all, he's still in the prime of his life so just support him and stick with him for the ride, you might see him get weaker if they start chemo etc. But keep in mind that your father is still a pretty young human being and the human body is very resilient.

Hang in there man, every cloud has a silver lining.

[logically]

ACTUALLY GUYS GREAT NEWS!!!!!!

It's turns out he is gonna be ok!

I don't know the exact details yet... but he went to a specialist that found out it is something a lot less serious!! When he called to told me I was just so happy that i didn't even ask why they told him he did if he doesn't... We are all going out to celebrate tonight so i will ask him then.

YES!!!!!

This is definetely going to make me appreciate the time i have with my dad more...

[Mate]

This is definetely going to make me appreciate the time i have with my dad more...

that is awesome news. I'm really happy to hear that.