making the first move...

bobdole · Post by **bobdole** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 8:13 pm

Just wait until you guys are in a room alone and walk in completely naked. Dont try anything or even aknowledge that your nude. just sit down and keep a straight face.

Jay212 · Post by **Jay212** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 8:15 pm

I don't think that's possible for someone who has emotions.

Ikku · Post by **Ikku** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 9:35 pm

When in doubt, whip it out.

Certified-Nutter · Post by **Certified-Nutter** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 10:37 pm

do what ur comfortable with, no offense to anyone on these boards, cos everyone here is cool!
but fuck everyones opinions, fuck mine even, all that matters is what u think
to me it sounds like u are mad for this girl, and i think u will regret it for the rest of ur life if u dont make the move
or u cud not, make ur own decision, thats what life is
it could go one way or another, bad or good, but either way, life goes on and more girls await u
just make the decision u wont regret later in life, and from what u have said, i think that u would regret not asking her, but thats just what i think, good luck making ur mind up, and hope it all goes well for you

4*20 · Post by **4*20** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 1:37 am

Weedguru Higher wrote:Joey, nobody here can tell you what you should do. YOU are the only one who knows...go with your gut.

And don't bother with the coke idea...it's a bad idea

Most importantly : Follow Higher's advice.

But if I can give out my personal opinion about a good way (an example) to reach to her...

joey is a noob wrote:I posted above the stuff that could happen like losing a friend, feeling awkward, lose all confidence etc. etc. the main problem im facing is to find a good place/situation to make the move......man looking back on last friday night, home alone, on the couch, scary movie(i wasnt paying attention much lol), lights cut out, with only 1 friend with her telling me to make the move while the girl i like did something upstairs once she came back........fuck man im n00b

Creating scenarios in your head, especially bad ones will only attract bad energy to the situation.
Stop caring about this shit. Stop being so concerned about wether or not she replies your txts. Act busy. Not seeing her will just make you more independant and maybe with a little hope you will start realising other girl's worth. The best thing that could happen is if you'd bump into her at some point and then set a night together or hang out at that point, or if SHE would call you back or txt you back then you could get back in touch with her. Trust me it will happen at some point. Now that situation would be perfect because since it will have been awhile since you haven't talked to her you'll get to catch up and will probably have a lot of fun stuff to say to each other, therefore you'll have a great night. Get a nice bottle of liquor and preroll yourself a few joints to ensure quality time.

JokersAce wrote:being drunk will

or at least could.

Actually being drunk will make shit worse (because you won't be able to hide your feelings) but being tipsy and her being drunk will make life a hell lot easier for you. Girls loose track off the alcohol and become inhibited; I bet everytime she made out with your exbuddies she was drunk too.
Good spaces to kick it: park, near-water spot, an aside room at a house party. Ideal space: when you're home alone.
Then when you know she's having a blast but you know the night has reached it's peak, tell her something meaningful, light pause, look at her in the eyes and truly share your opinion about her. (Only if the time is right). ex: " You know we've been friends for what... _ or _ yrs, you're the only girl that really understands me and I don't want to seem to cheesy but you know how to get to me and that's why I feel good about our friendship" . See how she reacts; if she gets all odd: she scared that you'll go further. Then keep it there; no damage done.
If you see a spark in her eyes, that's because the emotional shield she created herself has been dissolved by the alcohol and it gives you a cue you can gradually take another step.
Then get closer to her ; however :"Lean closer: I want to tell you a secret" *Leans* c'mon girl, closer *Leans forward* , "I really like you" (Cant' jeopardize yourself yet)
Then, she'll truly tell you how she feels.

Best case scenario: You'll get to kiss her and feel on her booty.

Worse case scenario: You're a really good friend but I don't feel that way about you. Don't panick, keep your cool, at least you'll clear the doubts in your mind and you can briefly talk about it and assure to her you're not crazy in love but you just needed to talk about it and see how she felt.
You just smudge it but tell it like it is.
No drama, no tears, no awfully awkward situation. Be mature, be yourself, be confident.

In the meanwhile (since an opportunity like this might take a lot of time) get moving and go on with your life. Do sports, make money, go to parties; get drunk, get high. This will only make you more attractive to her. GL younging.
Oh and please say more about that friend encouraging you to make a move.

joey is a noob · Post by **joey is a noob** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 2:09 am

she wasnt drunk when she made out with them.............guys i've gotten into the worst depression

4*20 · Post by **4*20** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 2:22 am

You can't let her get ahold of you like that... I feel your pain man but you gotta stay strong and focus on other aspects of life. Jack off, get her out of your system, meet other girls, play THEM and then you'll understand the basics of human psychology : someone interested in you is not as interesting as someone who's not! You can be nice but don't be too nice, only be fun. Sad truth in the dating game. Every succesful player in the dating game has gone through all the deception you may feel but the quicker you'll get back on your feet the faster you'll reach your goal.
Also don't take anything I say too seriously or personal. If your gut tell you otherwise, don't believe me.

The truth is that you need not to worry and be happy =) Live and learn, but most of all, have fun!
I'll toke a nice spliff to your well being man.

joey is a noob · Post by **joey is a noob** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 2:24 am

thanks man, this sucks so bad....i wish i had some1 to talk 2 fuck......i was out with her today, nd all the other guys started coming back into the convo....dudes seriously lowest point in my life...........im usually happy and shit but i just went silent and didnt know what to do......like it eats me up it seriously eats me up.....i wanna tell her that she is the greatest fucking thing to ever come into my life and i thank god everyday that i get to be with her.....but when guys are treating her like shit and shes so into them like i am with her it just makes me wonder why the fuck we love people...i keep everything bottled up inside because i dont want to lose her and if i let it out im afraid she'll leave...fuck dude im falling apart

JokersAce · Post by **JokersAce** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:19 am

Take it like a man ffs.

joey is a noob · Post by **joey is a noob** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:26 am

we all take certain shit like pussies man, it happens to the best of us

JokersAce · Post by **JokersAce** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:28 am

but here's your thing dude, it's just a girl you really like and wanted. Not a girl you've been in a deep relationship with for years.

joey is a noob · Post by **joey is a noob** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:29 am

i get what your saying..its just hard to cope with some stuff you know what i mean?

hehe i wish i could toke that spliff with you Sass

Oh yeah i forgot to mention how we got stuff in the open with each other last night...i took your adivce and put my feelings out there without coming on too strongly, it seems that right now shes not ready seeing how shes sprung over some guy that is one of those players, you know, the kind that just play into w.e she wants to hear but really goes out the next night and fucks around(she even knows it but something keeps her coming back? any though cause it puzzles me?)

Im more calm now about the situation, a bit of tunes and sleep really does do wonders

Im just going to play it out, w.e happens, happens...finally having some chronic, its been almost 4 weeks!

joey is a noob · Post by **joey is a noob** » Mon Jul 23, 2007 9:14 pm

quick update: hey guys, things are taking a turn for the better

, just finished visiting that girls house, nothing serious went down but she did ly on me and hold my hand while we watched some movie she liked(I am Sam i think its called?) not exactly the happiest movie but hey i guess it won her over

...now just need to seal the deal 2mo, lol bobdole i might just take that advice, everytime i read that posts i crack up, i can actually imagine one day someone doing that

Thanks for all the support!

Btw: Playing with yo-yo's while high=the ultimate fun....Peace!

JokersAce · Post by **JokersAce** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:20 am

There you go, go for it!

if she lays down on you and hold your hand she likes you straight up.

Post by **WeedGuru_Flow** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 9:15 am

Jup, all my previous relations started out by the girl lying on me while either watching a movie or smoking a doobie in a park and then holding hands.

It's funny isn't it

Just stick around her often and try to read her body, if she's very physical (by that i mean like standing close to you,hugs,touching accidentally...) you can't go wrong.

Congrats mate

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