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my dad ><
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 3:22 am
by Cap'n Peg Leg
well, yeah, im pretty new here, dont know like any of you, but figured a few other opinions in the matter wont hurt
I dont live with my dad anymore, mostly cause we got into a fist fight awhile back
he doesnt get that I am like my own person, and not a little robot for him to tell what to do
like when I want to do something by myself, and he wants to do something else, he is like, truly baffled by the idea of letting me do what I want to instead of what he wants
he wants me to move back in with him, and has apologized, but I am much happier at my moms
whenever I go with him anywhere it ends up in some sort of fight
I dunno, have been told that I shouldnt let a grudge hold me back, but everytime I even think of going back I am like "fuck no"
plus I wouldnt be able to smoke nearly as often, wouldnt be able to see friends seeing as he lives far away, and yeah
any advice would be considered and appreciated
lates
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 3:28 am
by SpRi7e
my advice is to say either he lightens up on his rules and does stuff for you then you move back with him because their isn't really a good reason if he's bossing you around and might actually get in another fist fight. Just do whatever you think it right and what would suit you the most.
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 4:07 am
by CaNuCk
Are there any positives in you moving back with him, besides he's your dad? Maybe it's your moms turn to have you for awhile..
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 4:09 am
by Cap'n Peg Leg
um, I really cant think of any besides him being my dad
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 4:15 am
by CaNuCk
Well can't you visit him on weekends or something, maybe if you aren't around each other so much you'll get along better.
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 4:18 am
by Cap'n Peg Leg
well thats how we had it worked out, I lived with my dad on the weekends, and my mom during the week. we got into the fight with that schedule
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 9:19 am
by dylann
man. your story is exactly like mine.
cept i live with both my parents lol.
so yeah i just wanna move out altogether.
i say stay with your mum, and stick it out till your old enough to move out with a few of your buddies.
the more you sacrifice now the easier its going to get in the future.
just my thoughtss.
and btw im trying to do the same thing right now with my parents.
ive been in 4 fist fights with my dad. over ridulous shit.
my family is going to counciling.
and thye are trying to make me stop going out on weekends.
its pretty fucked lol.
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 1:39 pm
by SweetTeaSweetheart
Did you ever consider YOU were being an ungrateful bratty son? If he WANTS to take an interest in you, be glad. Do things with you Dad, get to know him, let him get to know you. Shit, you think he's so bad b/c he won't let you do what you want? That's what parents are supposed to do b/c you don't have the maturity for the most part to do what's right, smart, and best for yourself.
You could very well be hurting your father. Good job, jackass.
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 6:06 pm
by MatteN
Did you ever consider YOU were being an ungrateful bratty son? If he WANTS to take an interest in you, be glad. Do things with you Dad, get to know him, let him get to know you. Shit, you think he's so bad b/c he won't let you do what you want? That's what parents are supposed to do b/c you don't have the maturity for the most part to do what's right, smart, and best for yourself.
You could very well be hurting your father. Good job, jackass.
Fuck you.
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Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 6:33 pm
by Ras Bongo
No need for SweetTea to be a bitch about it, but maybe you were just taking the wrong perspective on things. I'm sure that if you did stuff with your dad every once in a while, he'd let you do MUCH more. Maybe he just wants to be a part of your life...
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 7:48 pm
by Cap'n Peg Leg
yeah, see, I want him to be part of my life, ya dont know how much I would give for none of this to have happened, but I am not gonna do it when we are just gonna get into more fights and do very hurtful things to eachother. Its just not worth it. I dont wanna sound defensive, but unless you have had someone who told you they loved you since birth pretty much beat you and tell you that you arent welcome in their home, ya dont know how hard it is to forigive them for something like that
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 8:26 pm
by Grotmar
SweetTeaSweetheart wrote:Did you ever consider YOU were being an ungrateful bratty son? If he WANTS to take an interest in you, be glad. Do things with you Dad, get to know him, let him get to know you. Shit, you think he's so bad b/c he won't let you do what you want? That's what parents are supposed to do b/c you don't have the maturity for the most part to do what's right, smart, and best for yourself.
You could very well be hurting your father. Good job, jackass.
What the fuck? Dont insult the dude, mabye his dad wasnt being fare with him, mabye he was, but listen to the guy before callin him a jackass and telling him its his fault.
Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 8:32 pm
by Mate
do what you think it's the best.
i can't really help you on that, neither the other people can.
your choice does not have to reflect on other people's opinion.
it's your familly's life, YOUR dad.
YOU should know what to do about this situation.
answer these questions, and think about it, buddy
Do you really want to be with your dad again ?
Do you think, it's a good idea to go back with him ?
Do you think your dad can change is attitude toward you if you ask him ?
what i can tell is, he's your dad, if there's a problem toward him, TELL HIM. he won't bitch about it, he wants to know what you think, he wants to know your opinions, he wants to know who you are, or who you,ve come.
Posted: Fri May 25, 2007 3:33 am
by SweetTeaSweetheart
I'm just saying, teens tend to have a 'woe is me' attitude towards their parents. Most everybody has been there, I've certainly been there done that. Looking back I was just a self-centered bitch ass little girl. The OP could very well be a self-centered bitch ass little boy. Sunrise, Sunset.
Posted: Fri May 25, 2007 3:35 am
by MatteN
i like how you didn't spend the time to find out.
i don't like you.