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I'm sitting in my living room right now. Out through the kitchen and down the hallway my two roommates (kyle and jessie(girl)) are in their room having this huge fight. The two have alot of history together and have already broken up once. They've fought before, but never like this. Jessie's parents just got divorced. She just got the news yesterday on the phone. As I can imagine (as my parents got divorced when I was 11) she is extremely stressed out and probably feeling a little bit depressed and guilty (as people often feel when they're parents split up). This sets up the current problem. Last night her boyfriend (kyle) was on her computer and he "stumbled" upon this story she's been writing. It's pretty much based on her relationship with her last boyfriend Luke. I don't know what happened with her and Luke but i'd imagine it's alot similiar to my girlfriends ex bf situation... she did alot of fucked up things with him and doesnt like to talk about it, ex bf is a big asshole cheated on her e.t.c. e.t.c. anyways so he reads this story. Some of its pretty graphic apparently he didnt go into details.

He's a pretty jelous guy from what I've observed while living with him and he does not appreciate this story she's writing. So now they're having this huge fight in their room screaming and crying and slamming on the wall and all that. The thing I'm wierded out about is that at this point they're no longer fighting abut anything important , theyre just screaming at eachother about cigarettes and dum shit

and holy shit I just heard him scream "FUCK YOU BE WITH HIM FUCK YOU" Allright well I was going to ask wether I should intervene or not and try to talk some sense into them but now it seems he's stormed out the back door. Jesus christ. Well since Ive already written this it seems a waste to post it so I'm going to ask for some other advice.

Now it looks like theyre relationships in a really shitty place and i'm worried now that they might break up if they dont get through this fight. Should I start looking for another roomate, or ask for more hours at work incase one of them moves out and I have to fill in the extra rent money? Should I go try and talk to Jessie? Im so lost and worried about them, please, some advise.

p.s. sorry about the obscenely long post :/

No problem,


It's kind of a sticky situation as it's about 'their' relationship, so they might find it intrusive if you try to calm them down, I know at the time of writing the fight is probably over and the outcome of this ordeal is known but since I don't know that for sure i'll try to give you my two cent.


First try calming them both down, or if you can't do that just wait 'til it's over and talk to them separately so you have both of their stories and that way they get to say what they want without the other one interrupting cause he/she thinks he/she's right.

Hear them both out,and try to get some kind of solution that suits both of them, or just try to talk some sense in them, it's so hard to give you any help since I don't know their history or how they are in life.

Hope the whole talk to them separately was helpful, other than that I'm not quite sure if I can give you good advice.

Hope it all works out!

They're still fighting, just quieter now... I think they're calming down... regardless, still I'm wierded out... thanks for the tips flow, I'll try it, see how it goes, the post back later.

Do they smoke? If so smoke them out, that will always put someone in a better mood.

id wait till this bout of the fight is over and talk to each of em seperately, obviously theyll get mad if you talk to both of em at once...and that juts puts you in the middle of all of it. see what each of em is thinking and use that to help you when you talk to the other. if you come right out and sit em both down and give em one of those "mom" talks they might gat mad at you for being in their buisiness.

just my 2 cents

goodluck dude

get her an ounce lol jk but yeah idk what to do..

they resolved it themselves
figures lol. Still akward though 'cause I know a bunch of things about them from when they were yelling shit, and they know I know and I'm not going to say I know so of course they wont say anything about the situation either. So its just this giant elephant in the room all the time now...

yo Rory, your sig pic makes light traces in my eyes. Sweet.

Just stick with it Rory, and enjoy the relationship you have. Things happen for a reason. All you can do now is maybe talk to both of them individually (jessie about her parents divorce and her stressness and Kyle (he probly wouldnt mind a guy opinion on the "story" that would reason with him and his feelings).

i have been in a simular situation, and as much as yu may not want to hear this, the best thing you can do is get out of there fast.

This would really only work if you're a big guy, but get the dude alone. Corner him in a mildly threatening way and tell him he's not the only one living there and he needs to stop this shit.

If that solves nothing, it's time to relocate.

Never ever never place yourself between a quareling couple. At best they will BOTH turn on you and F you up in any sense of the word. Really, be warned that when emotions run as high as in a lover's quarel logic flys out the window. You may be trying to help but they will most likely see you as messing in their private matters. Unless physical violence is certain, stay out of it. If there is physical violence call the cops.

Just stay out of the fight and be a good friend to both after things have cooled down, whether they stick toghether of split up. Don't go in while tempers are flaring. Bad Idea, seriously.