Bonglovingirl wrote:
Thanks for wanting to help...I am so scared and don't really have anyone to talk to about it yet.
He was a steady boyfriend, but we got into a serious fight last month which resulted in his moving dang near across the country. We have been together off and on, more on than off for over 3 years.
I haven't told him yet because I'm not exactly sure what I'm going to do.
Well, I think that regardless of whatever you are going to do, you should still tell him..afterall he is the father and has the right to know.. Telling him will maybe help you make a decision.
I called my OB/GYN and was told I had to wait until next month to even come in!! I wish there were still hope that I wasn't, but I think I knew somewhere in the back of my mind. And now I just know...I can feel it. Plus...what are the chances that 5 tests now are all wrong..probably not so good. I let go of that chance after the receptionist at the Dr.s told me she'd never heard of anyone getting 5 positive tests and not being PG. But apparently it's no big deal since my appointment isn't even until JANUARY.
The exact same thing happened with me and my gf. We went to a walk in clinic to get the real test in the meantime. You don't really need any prenatal care before 20 weeks, so don't worry about that.
I don't really want a baby no, mainly because I'm not ready and I don't have a "stable" homelife to bring the baby into. I'm single. I live alone yes, with a so-so job. Not enough for a family
Wefelt the exact same way, due to similar conditions. Neither me or my gf had a job, we had only a dingy 1 bedroom apartment, and basivally had no frigging idea what to do with a baby. At the time, we were both pretty messed up people. I was having issues with drug problems and the law for starters. We certainly weren't set out to be all american parents.
The scariest thing was just not knowing anything. So the next thing I did after getting the test was go to the bookstore and buy books on pregnancy and stuff (actually I stole them but who cares..it was for a good cause lol I didn't really have a choice) After reading those books it made us feel better cause we knew more of what to expect.
We were both against abortion, and I was against adoption. I was adopted as a young a baby myself. I'm not saying it's a bad thing..it just wan't right for me. Me being adopted hurt me alot in my life and I didnt want to see that happen to my kid. But thats a personal issue, prolly not your case.
d news is, I will be finished with my Bachelor's before the baby is born...so that hopefully gives me a better shot at being able to get a job that I can support the baby with in the near future. But I am getting more and more used to the idea...it's just really scary to be alone and pregnant
I do feel like it will work out. Adoption is an option that I may consider....but I would be concerned about committing my child to "the system" which is not great in this country. I think I'll be a good mom. I just have to adjust and plan and it will work out......right?!?!?!?!?
You will be a good mom, trust me. I couldn't phathom the idea of being a parent..hell I was still almost a kid myself. I was 19 when my gf got pregnant. Once you make the decision that you want that baby, some natural mother/father thing seems to kick in. You start seeing things differently. You will have the 'want to' to make it work. Had I graduated highschool, it woulda been written in the yearbook under my name, most likey to not have children! Seriously..
Do you have other family members that will support you? I had a pretty nastly relation with my parents, From age 13-18 I lived at home only sporatically, living in group homes , foster familesm and juvy centers most of the time. We had major communication problems and stuff. Despite our diffrences I did bring myself to tell my mom one day. I was a damn hard thing to do cause I was sure they were gonna rip my head off and disown me..again. Suprisingly enough they didn't. They weren't thrilled but what was done was done, so they decided the best thing would be to help us.
8 months into the pregnancy we got busted in our home for growing pot. Got arrrested and then kicked out of our apartment. This one night we were on a street corner with a few bags of clothes, nothing other. Except for the fat belly...
We had to do something..we needed help. That night we slept at my sisters house. The next morning I decided to get us some help .I called up a priest..sounds funny but he's really cool. He deals with prisoners and stuff like that. He told me to get my gf in this house called the Villa Marie Calire. It was for woman who were pregnant, to help them get their life going, learn to care for baby and whatnot. Girls only..I couldn't go. So, he told me to go to drug therapy which I did . Thisi baby place allowed the fathers in all the time and stuff..they were into keepign families together and shit.About 6 months into our stay the staff came to talk to us. They said we think you are ready to be on your own, we need the spot for more needy people. I was like..wtf..too soon. I asked for them the time to find a job, a home etc. They said ok, and we;ll help you. That day I got on the phone and started calling moving companies..it was the only job I knew how to do!! I still have that job to this day.
what's funny is....condoms don't work. In 3 years, we rarely used them, I was on BC off and on, and I honestly didn't think I could get pregnant anyway. I know this sounds naive, but I smoke a lot of weed, and I remember my OB/GYN telling me before that THC actually coats your ovaries making it harder to conceive. But the funny thing is, I actually made him wear one the time I conceived yet somehow here we are...so don't put your faith in those, kids!
You too??
I hope something I said will help you see that light at the end of the tunnel! It's really not that bad.
Once you give birth and hold that little fellow in your arms, you will not regret the decision
Its only a shitty 1.1 Fiesta and its white 
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