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Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Sat Jul 10, 2010 3:26 pm
by SpRi7e
I think what he meant was he could imagine all the different types of shit you would hear working for them

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 3:48 pm
by Footienut1892
Update if anyone cares: Well it's been a few weeks, me and my friend haven't spoken me and my boyfriend went to see toy story 3 last week with her and her boyfriend (her boyfriend and mine are best friends) and we didn't speak to each other, it was weird i just didn't know what to say and i'm guessing she felt the same. After thinking about it i've decided to be the bigger person and but an end to this nonsense and try and get things back to normal, i do want to be there for them both and i can't do that as well as i could at the moment, and if i'm honest i miss being friends with her. I was thinking of dropping a message, i don't like doing these things face to face i hate confrontation and i'm scared of rejection. I'm just gonna apologise for not being there the past few weeks and how this whole thing is stupid and i just want things back to normal with us but i have no idea how to put it. It really is something over nothing and we've both had things to deal with i think it's time its just put in the past.

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 7:33 pm
by andriaSRH
Oh gosh..

Don't apologize because she was a total bitch!

Sounds like you are the type of person who lets people walk over you....:/

Yeah I can see if you write her a message "this is stupid, let's squash the bullshit"...but hun, none of this is your fault.

Being the bigger person is way different than kissing someone ass.

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:00 pm
by Footienut1892
I don't let people walk all over me. I just don't see the point in holding grudges over what is essentially nothing. She's one of my closest friends and i refuse to lose someone over something as trivial as this. I was i was feeling all sorts of emotion at the time, so was she and we just clashed, it happens. I've thought about it a lot and doing something positive more than weighs out doing something negative.

I know i said some things and i'm not going back on what i said, i don't think being pregnant means you should expect people to give you attention and ofcourse i won't let that happen and i'll make sure she understands that. I will be there for them and be excited with them, but i also need to be able to talk and do other things beside baby this and baby that.

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:13 pm
by Certified-Nutter
i wont go on the bandwagon n say that all preggos are raving lunatics, but with their horomonal flushes, some of them can become a raving lunatic from it, and those that dont, well lucky u.

i wouldnt risk a friendship over hurt feelings in during a pregnancy, if she has always bin like this and the pregnancy is just making it worse, then she really isnt a friend worth all this, but ifit is a vast difference from before, i think it may just be hormones, and defo not something u should give up on in my opinion.
still its just my opinion, do what u think u must n that all we can do eh?
good luck with it all, whateva way you go

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:41 pm
by Footienut1892
Exactly, she isn't usually like that which is why i'm doing this. I've had a lot of time to think about this and i beleive i'm making the right choice. If she doesn't accept my attempt to make ammends then oviously, it's her loss at least i can say i tried to sort things out.

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 10:33 pm
by andriaSRH
I'm just gonna apologise for not being there the past few weeks and how this whole thing is stupid and i just want things back to normal with us but i have no idea how to put it
What I'm getting at...is that you are going to apologize to her for the way she acted...?

You said that you had your own problems going on (you never said what they were but yeah...) where was she when you needed her? Apparently being a stuck up cunt and only caring about herself. Some friend.... :roll:

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2010 10:58 pm
by Footienut1892
I didn't say what they were because i'd rather not, the thread is about me and my friend not my other personal stuff i also wanted to try and keep the story as neutral as possible and adding extra stuff about me that isn't relevant isn't really doing that. I know she was an idiot but i admit i wasn't there for her either it works both ways and as i said we're both in the wrong at the end of the day and i'm making the action to sort things out and make sure we communicate better in the future. Better for someone to do something to try and better the situation.

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 3:02 am
by andriaSRH
Never said I wanted to know your personal stuff...I was just stating a fact.

I was using your "hard times" as a reference to the times she had to go through when you weren't around. That's all.

I don't have any close girlfriends for the sole purpose of not having to deal with pointless dramas... like the situation you're in now .... :dunno:

Re: Help with friend :(

Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 11:43 am
by Footienut1892
Don't worry i was just saying why i didn't include that stuff :) That's fair enough about the girl friends thing, to be fair stuff like this never happens really only every once in a while. I have friends who i've been friends with for years and we've never had any problems, it's just one of those things, sometimes people clash.