Girlfriend trouble :-( :-(

[pirate]

Ive been seeing her for the past four months and things have been going great. Of late however, she says i dont pay as much attention to her as i used to.
We've spoken about this quite a bit. I shifted jobs in the middle of last month and havent been paid from the earlier place yet (cos ill get a full and final settlement later this month) and im a little tight cash wise..so i cant afford to go out a lot this month. No clubbing at all in fact. and havent been able to go to her house as often as i used to either.
plus work here has increased to six days a week and unlike the earlier place, i wok later here..till about 10.30-11pm..so i cant see her in the evenings after work like i used to earlier..
money (or the lack of it) stresses me out big time...and even though i know ill be getting it back soon, the here and the now is rreally stressing me out..and sometimes i get a little iritable at her (at everybody actually)

she knows all this .. but now refuses to talk to me...and says we should part ways because my irritability is increasing and she cant take it anymore..(its been less than a month and we havent been fighting everyday either)

she's a fashion designer who's just getting her act together and has a couple of large export orders..i told her we both know we're going to be with each other...we might as well start focusing more on work now that both our careers are hitting prime time..
and she says i dont love her anymore...is still pissed off with me...

the problem is that she's incredibly high maintenance...and expects the relationship to have the same zing as it did when we started going out..i dont see how thats possible..i keep telling her that the zing changes...as we get to know each other better and longer...
but

what do i tell her to make her come back?


edit: this is the first proper relationship ive been in (the rest never lasted more than a few weeks) and i dont want to lose this...

[hashpipe]

make some candle light meals at your home, take long romantic walks with her, etc etc. every relationship has its ups and downs, and those little romantic things make for a good night of steamy steamy xxx, turning a down into a up.

[MOT]

Im not really one to talk bout relationships. So i will say this dude, chin up, and if she's not understandin the situation there's not much you can do.

[pirate]

its not that she doesnt understand my situation. she gets overly pissed if im being grumpy and cranky..im not taking anything out on her..im just irritated generally..
just have a very short fuse of late and i tend to snap at people

and sorry never works ...

thanks for the advice HP.. thats what we used to earlier, but now i dont have the time to do all that and neither does she....

[herbal stu]

its not that she doesnt understand my situation. she gets overly pissed if im being grumpy and cranky..im not taking anything out on her..im just irritated generally..
just have a very short fuse of late and i tend to snap at people

and sorry never works ...

thanks for the advice HP.. thats what we used to earlier, but now i dont have the time to do all that and neither does she....

I get this all the time with my missus particularly when I wake up in the morning. No matter what if she wakes me up I;ll be pissed cos I need to come out of sleep on my own be it at 8am or 1pm. Anyhow if you ask me there is more troubling her and she saying you dont pay her the attention she needs. Surely you can manage to spend a good 4 hours with her sitting down and asking her to talk and tell you exactly how she feels and you just be brutally honest with her but with all the frills of love. I kinda had a conversation with my other half last night. Our sex lifes been at an all time low due to us living with rents quickies have been the only release and we have been lacking that special connection in the moment. At first I thought I was kinda losing any sexual attraction I had to her and other relationship and emotional draining thoughts. But we both talked last night and we have both felt like this. We both ended up in tears at one point because we miss each others touch warmth and comfort in the way we had it for the first 6 months of our relationship.

Things get stressful Purp, all I'll say is you keep trying to work at it if she loses her respect for you she'll stop listening and talk and you gotta be painfully proud and respect yourself and leave before you hurt yourself deeply. If she listens and connects with you and hasnt already made her mind up and will work with you love it is my friend hold it cherish it and live everyday like your last! There is more important things than career and money. A true love will always love you even if your broke!

[Bonglovingirl]

I think you should take some time apart from each other. Sometimes at the beginning of a relationship people tend to spend a bunch of time together and everything is perfect la dee dah...but if you aren't careful you start to "get sick of the person" and they irritate you.

If you don't see her for a little bit, a few days-weeks whatever, it will give you both a chance to reflect on the situation and miss each other. Then have a conversation about your status and go from there.

But if a girl says she wants space, the best thing to do is to let her know that while you may not agree, you respect her choice and will give her what she wants. I truly do believe abscence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck

[4*20]

After leaving a girl, it's hard to get her back. You'll have to be twice as more determinated, because in the ends she knows the same problem will eventually pop out and doesn't sees how constructive this could be. Sacrifice her time, not necessarrly money. If it's still nice outside, go with her for a picnic you'll arrange (then maybe you can spicy things up a little out there) Get some new things in your relashionship. Buy chocolate and draw it all over her, or do that with whipped cream, fruits, whatever rocks your boat. Doesn't have to be fancy, just new, and most importantly: make her feel special.
Tell her how everything would be so boring without her and that she's your only reason to get this money situation through. And also, when you are not grumpy, tell her that you are sorry to be from times to time.

[cutthecashflow]

Sucks doesn't it purple monkey that the world is run on money and not happiness. Some people say that money is happiness, I'd really like to smack them people.

You can't do without money though and if you don't make it theres no food on the plate. You want to be with this girl, but work gets involved. You are just going to have to let her know somehow that this is really out of your power to control. Lose you're job and I'm sure she will be more unhappy then she is now.

Money makes the world go round; bullshit money drags the world down....

[pirate]

thanks for listening people...
went to her place last night after work and sang "if not for you" by dylan in the park in front of her house..forgot some words but she liked it anyway..

didnt have a lot of time to talk cos she was going out to dinner with her mum, but she said exactly what cathies said...

You'll have to be twice as more determinated, because in the ends she knows the same problem will eventually pop out and doesn't sees how constructive this could be.

she also said that if we gave each other a little space, she wouldnt have the same kind of expectations from me...so i think thats what is going to happen now..

i think ill just need to give this a little time to heal

edit: thanks again stu, cathy, blg and ctcf

[hashpipe]

hell yeah a bob dylan serenade, if that didnt work nothing will...

but everythings back to ok or what?

[pirate]

nah man..far from it...we're taking a break..hate that word...but i guess thats what we have to do..

[tweedle]

You know what this means. Head to the club pick up some bitches, jump in the jacuzzi and get jiggy with it! and you wont get in shit for it cause your on a break!

[pirate]

yeah man...i dont think i can bring myself to do anything of the sort dude...

[4*20]

went to her place last night after work and sang "if not for you" by dylan in the park in front of her house..forgot some words but she liked it anyway..

that's awesome! haha Good job!

[BUDA]

You know what this means. Head to the club pick up some bitches, jump in the jacuzzi and get jiggy with it! and you wont get in shit for it cause your on a break!

Ahaha that is deffinately not what you wanna do. Even if your on a break a girls gonna kill you for that. My mates finding that out right now silly boy! haha