Doing Something Bad and Then Feeling Guilty

Caro · Post by **Caro** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 8:06 am

I planned it out. I executed it. I got away with it.

But I feel horrible! I forgot, as I was planning, how lying makes me feel. Stressed out about making more lies up tomorrow (mine was pretty stupid, I said I got a flat tire).

Couldn't even enjoy the time I took off from work today.....

Weedguru_Dusk · Post by **Weedguru_Dusk** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 8:43 am

Yes I feel guilty a lot, but most times I talk myself out of it. I find a way of making what I did not a lie, I'll find a loop hole.
And a lot of times when I lie I say I do it for my own saftey or whatnot... but what can I say I'm addicting to lying.
I've gotten much better at not lying so much, more so the fact that its really screwed up my life in various places, because I've created so many stories and half truths with people I don't really know where to place the truth/reality anymore.

Scratch · Post by **Scratch** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 10:20 am

Depends on who I'm lying to. If it's someone who lies all the time and is generally a bad person, I don't feel guilty at all. However, when I lie to the people I love it hurts. Although, sometimes it's good to tell a lie, if it's in a good cause.

Tue Sep 20, 2005 10:21 am

dusk1022 wrote:Yes I feel guilty a lot, but most times I talk myself out of it. I find a way of making what I did not a lie, I'll find a loop hole.
And a lot of times when I lie I say I do it for my own saftey or whatnot... but what can I say I'm addicting to lying.
I've gotten much better at not lying so much, more so the fact that its really screwed up my life in various places, because I've created so many stories and half truths with people I don't really know where to place the truth/reality anymore.

And you have friends??

It hurts me when i lie, just as much as it must hurt the person i lie to. It's very rare that i lie, only under extreme circumstances. But there are a few people who i could just not bring myself to lie to.... My mum, my girlfriend, my best friends.

I feel that lying is a way of cheating the game, and i want to remain as honest and loyal as i possibly can

Midnight Toker · Post by **Midnight Toker** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 11:05 am

Depends who i'm lying/being a cunt to. I lie alot, it's become almost a reflex to cover my ass for all the stupid shit i do. I can lie to most people without even a pang of guilt, but with my friends and, more importantly, familly, i am always as truthful as possible. But ometimes lying is unavoidable, the truth can hurt them a hell of alot more than a lie. Like when a girl ask you if she looks fat, and you think she does, do you tell her? Little white lies are OK and totally necessary on occasions.

Like with you, for instance, i take it you lied to get a day off work? What's the big deal, everyone does it all the time. You're a reliable worker, right? You don't take days off anywhere near as often as you could, while others around you do? Alot of people don't even bother to call in, they just don't bother to show up, and you're so good hearted you're sitting at home miserable cuz you took a day off? Sit back, spark a joint, put your feet up and stop worrying. They'll cope without you for one day, i'm sure.

Only big lies to people i love hurt me, so i avoid them like the plague. Like the other day, you may have read i accidently stitched up my best friends sister, the next day i was on the phone coming clean, apoligising profusely and trying to chuck money at her. She appreciated my honesty (and my paying twice the retail value

) so i''m forgiven and i feel a hell of alot better.

Weedguru_Dusk · Post by **Weedguru_Dusk** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 12:40 pm

Do I have friends? Yes.
My friends are the hardest ones to lie to, so most the time I just don't do it. However, I count not telling them something, lying. And more often than not I have to do it. The last 7 months have been crazy with issues I just can't talk about. So I suppose I count withholding information lying.
I'm not as bad as I use to be with my half-truths. I was really bad in the start of high school when I was having a lot of selfissues. I think I lie to myself the most though. But so I wouldn't tell a friend if something was up... more so that came into play when I began cutting and then I shut everyone off. Even now I'll go a few days before I tell my best friend, but it doesn't phase me. The only one it does is with my boyfriend... sure as hell I have a hard time lying to him, I don't like doing it but its habit to blow off what's wrong.
But so I've protected myself for so long that I can't let myself be phased or I'd have a whole other issues of what to feel bad about. This past weekend for example. I was supposed to stay with my brother for the full weekend but my boyfriend was supposed to come into town who I haven't seen for two months and didnt know next when I'd see him (wanker didn't come into town anyway).
My brother isnt fond of my boyfriend and would hate that I was blowing him off so I told him I had two exams next week I needed to study for. This is true. So I tell myself I'm not so much lying but not telling the full truth. (And it ended up better for me coming back anyway).

I dont know if that makes any sense. Hell I don't like that I lie, so I've gotten better at not. Like I said in all I really don't lie to my friends, yet I still withhold information in the "I like to please everyone" phase I'm still trying to get over. But I don't have issues lying to those that don't know me. I don't mean that every chance I get to lie I will, but if I don't trust someone I'm not going to come out and give them whatever info they may want until I do.

Weedguru Cusmar · Post by **Weedguru Cusmar** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 1:48 pm

I lie alot only for good reasons (IMO). I don't like it and wish i didn't have to but i dont think i feel guilt, at all, ever!!!

mac dre · Post by **mac dre** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 2:57 pm

its a feeling that you can get over after time.

hashpipe · Post by **hashpipe** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 4:14 pm

almost everybody lies too everyone.... if you didnt like to go to work and lied, chances are your boss is going to lie too someone else to do some work you couldnt do.

Courtneylove5000 · Post by **Courtneylove5000** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 4:37 pm

i said no. i dont lie but i have stolen stuff before and dintn feel guily at all. all i took was some lip gloss and mascara...thats shits too fukin expensive! i havent done it in a long time tho and only like twice

Weedguru Cusmar · Post by **Weedguru Cusmar** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 6:04 pm

Courtneylove5000 wrote:i said no. i dont lie but i have stolen stuff before and dintn feel guily at all. all i took was some lip gloss and mascara...thats shits too fukin expensive! i havent done it in a long time tho and only like twice

if you mean from a shop then im not suprised you didn't feel guilt.

Courtneylove5000 · Post by **Courtneylove5000** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 6:19 pm

^ i know, i'm a wuss. c'mon! lipgloss?

herbal stu · Post by **herbal stu** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 7:05 pm

I never feel guilty until I get caught and thats only when its family. As far as people at work are concerned or anywhere else why should I give a shit about them, they'd just as much go ahead and do the same thing. I am an honest good person but I lie when somebody gets my goat and I need to avoid em and shit or if somebody is bragging I put em down with a convincing one liner never any serious lies just the usual kids stuff trying to get away with things n stuff.

Post by **cutthecashflow** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 7:34 pm

I dont steal shit, thats not cool I work for what I get....
Hardly ever lie either only white lies...

Weedguru Anex · Post by **Weedguru Anex** » Tue Sep 20, 2005 8:06 pm

I still feel guilty for stuff I did right back to when I was about 3. I can't forget for some reason

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